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How to Write Your Gay Wedding Ceremony Vows

Starting to work on writing your gay wedding ceremony vows? This is the how-to guide that you need.

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Gay wedding ceremony vows can be tough to tackle! Many popular sources for ceremony writing are geared toward male-female couples and need a serious makeover for LGBT weddings. While, they can totally be used as templates, you may have to do a bit of extra work to make them fit with your big day. We’ve hashed out how to crush writing your gay wedding vows to make the process a little easier.

Here’s how to write your gay wedding ceremony vows.

Dive into your research

While Googling “gay wedding ceremony vows” is a great place to start, it probably won’t give you everything you need. We suggest looking through your favourite books, scrolling through love song lyrics and watching a few rom coms to get advice from seasoned writers.

Draft away

As with any piece of writing, you’ll want to go through a few rough drafts. Sit down with a pen and paper (or a computer, if that’s your style) and write down everything you love about your partner. Keep in mind that it doesn’t have to sound perfect (or even good) at this stage - you’ll polish it off later. If you need help getting start, try answering these questions before writing your wedding vows.

Write for your partner, not the crowd

Your gay wedding ceremony vows should be suited to your partner. Focus on specific aspects of them that your love to make your speech a touch more personal. Don’t be afraid to write something on the funnier side. If your favourite thing about your partner is their laugh, why not bring it out on your big day?

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Ask around

If writer’s block has hit you hard and you’re still coming up dry, it may be time to phone a friend or an expert. Ask your recently married friends and relatives if they have any sage wisdom about wedding vows for you. You can totally borrow ideas from them or use their vows as inspo. Your wedding officiant or wedding celebrant may also be open to offering you advice, so drop them a line, too.

Don’t procrastinate

This really is easier said than done, but you don’t want to put off writing your wedding vows to the eleventh hour. Start drafting early and keep making edits until your happy with how everything sounds. You’ll be way too busy sorting out the fine details of your big day to give the speech your full attention, so it’s best to get the job done early.

Have a fallback

Pre-written vows are totally a thing. If you’re not confident in your writing vows it’s A-OK to borrow from the pros. They might be a little less sentimental, but they totally work. P.S. these can be a bit heteronormative, so you’ll probably have to make a few tweaks to create the perfect gay wedding ceremony vows.

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