You and your fiancé probably won’t have a ton of time to chat before meeting at the wedding altar on your big day, but you can exchange love letters. This age old tradition helps warm even the coldest feet and leaves couples with souvenirs more priceless than extra wedding favours. If you’re having trouble writing a love letter to your fiancé, use these tips as your guide.
Here are a few tips for writing a love letter to your fiancé.
Plan it out
Phase one is crafting your master love letter plan. Discuss the tradition with your partner to make sure that they’re on board with the idea (they’ll need time to write theirs, too) and then get to prepping. Keep a note in your phone with all your ideas and then move onto drafting. It’ll probably take some time to get the ball rolling, but it’ll be well worth it.
Find some stunning stationery
You can write drafts of a love letter to your fiancé on computer paper you stole from your office printer, the back of an ancient high school essay or the lid of a pizza box, but that’s definitely not how you should be giving it to your partner (even if you are super quirky). Invest in some pretty stationery - you can even ask your wedding stationer for something that matches your menus, invitations and place cards - and put it to use. Make sure you know exactly what you want to say before putting pen to paper so that you don’t waste any!
Give them some praise
An essential part of a love letter to your fiancé is the praise. Let your S.O. know exactly what about them makes your heart pound. Maybe it’s their smile? Their generous spirit? Their confidence? Now’s the time to shower them with compliments for all those things.
Take a walk down memory lane
Pick a handful of your best memories together and give them the spotlight. Your partner will love travelling back in time to a few of your sweetest moments together. Tip: you probably have dozens that you hold near and dear, but try to stick to one or two or your letter might turn into a novel.
Talk about your future together
You’re about to start a beautiful new phase of your relationship, and you’re understandably pretty stoked. Include a few of the things that you’re excited for, like your honeymoon, starting a family or some other grand adventure you plan on embarking upon later down the line.
It’s okay to be a bit sappy
You don’t have to be a total cheeseball, but don’t be afraid of getting a little sappy (this is a love letter to your fiancé, after all). If you want to add in a line from a Shakespeare play or a verse from a Pablo Neruda poem, go right ahead, more power to you.
Make it emotional
This isn’t just any old correspondence, so skip discussing the weather, foreign policy and the stock market. Take a deep dive into your emotions and turn them into words, instead. This will take your letter from average to amazing.
It doesn’t have to be perfect
Striving for perfection isn’t a bad thing, but don’t get too caught up with grammar, syntax and punctuation. Yes, the note should be readable, but you don’t have to edit it like you would a university paper. The point of the letter is its sentiment, and your soon-to-be spouse will be focusing more on that than they will your use of ellipses or awkward sentence structures.
Avoid turning it into an essay
It may be tricky, but you’re going to have to keep things short and sweet. There’s probably a thousand things you want to say to your S.O., but save some for the wedding vows. If you go over one page, try to make a few cuts. This may mean shortening an anecdote or taking out a few quotations from your favourite poem, but, good news, you have a lifetime of love letters ahead of you and you can always use that material later.
Task someone with delivering it
The last thing you’ll want to do is find a reliable letter carrier to deliver your love note to your partner. Yes, you could do it yourself, but you’ll probably want to spend the hours leading up to your ceremony rehearsing your vows, perfecting your look and trying to shake off any jitters. It’s normally the best man or maid of honour who steps up to the plate and takes on the job, but you can also ask another trust bridesmaid/groomsman or a family member.