Janaya
Devoted August 2019 Saskatchewan

Bridal shower.. help!

Janaya, on 11/April/2019 at 12:36 Posted in Before the wedding

Hello lovely ladies

i'm about to start the plans for my bridal shower that my mother will be hosting..(Im helping her plan it a little because we have completely opposite taste)

**is it better to have it on a Saturday afternoon or Sunday afternoon?

**how long before should the invitations go out? we will be doing e-invites

**Should the party match the theme of the wedding? For some reason I just want everything to be rose gold and blush pink which are far from our wedding colours haha

**Do I request rsvps or just let people know when and where it will be and see who shows up?

**I don't really have a lot of girlfriends and I'm getting nervous that it'll just be all older ladies that my mom invites...

**how long should it be? I was thinking like, 2pm-4pm and then if people want to hangout longer they can


It's hard to be excited about these type of events since I don't have many girlfriends and the ones I did consider friends were work colleagues and once I left they didn't make much effort to reach out (I did every once in awhile) but when we see each other in person it's really great.. So i'm not sure who will come and who won't and I feel a little awkward asking them to come if I haven't chatted with them in awhile. Haha! it went well when I asked for addresses for the invitations to the wedding so it shouldn't be so bad now with the bridal shower

ANY advice on what I should do at the shower, decorations, food, music.. or what you've done would be great!


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  • Donna Yeung
    Devoted August 2018 British Columbia
    Donna Yeung ·

    Hi Janaya,

    I would go with Sunday as most people make full day plans on Saturdays. Also, i generally find that most showers are held on Sundays for some reason. If you're planning to host it at a venue, Sundays will definitely not break the bank as it's cheaper to host on a Sunday compared to a Saturday.

    I would send out invitations roughly 2 months in advance especially if it's closer to the spring/summer months where weddings and vacations generally happen. EVITES has an RSVP function.

    The party theme doesn't have to match your wedding color themes. Some people like to do the color scheme of their wedding as to let guests know your colors. I had a friend who did that in hopes guests don't wear the same color dress as the bridesmaids.

    Definitely do RSVPs so you know how much catering to expect. If you are preparing snacks, drinks and cake, it's better to know in advance so you can prepare enough for everyone.

    Usually 2 hours is a good time, if you have a bigger guestlist, 3 hours max. Leave some time afterwards in case you have lingering guests who want to have some time to speak with you.

    Generally at the shower, there are light refreshments. If you aren't getting it catered, prep some stuff in the morning like cut up fruit trays, vegetable dips, cupcakes or a cake, chips, pretzels, quiches that you can warm up right before the event (costco sells mini quiches that you can pop in the oven, they also carry mini desserts in plastic cups). Decor can be as simple as balloons or paper mache balls (Michaels carries a bunch in their bridal aisle). Music can be a curated list of love songs. Nothing explicit since you have family/more elderly guests. You can have your bridesmaids or mom set up some games that everyone can play. There are a bunch of printable bridal shower games online (questionaires). You can prepare a couple prizes for the winners. I've also seen thank you bags for guests who come, but it's not a must.

  • Ingrid
    British Columbia
    Ingrid ·

    My advice is to choose something fun, and keep it natural!

  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Yeah I noticed our weddings are a day apart too! I think if you get the invitations out by Monday, you could have it on June 22nd. I don't think it matters too much that it's close to your wedding, but I'm just concerned with people having enough time to make sure they're free for it. I'm only having mine in May because there's literally no other weekend that works before the wedding, so have yours when you can.

  • Janaya
    Devoted August 2019 Saskatchewan
    Janaya ·
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    I told my mom that we are running out of time and she said that it doesn’t matter but I think it does. I told her we need to iron out the plans by this Sunday so I can send the invitations ASAP. We will probably have it June 22nd, but your wedding is just after mine so should I have it sooner?? I don’t want it too close to the wedding
  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·

    My shower is on a Sunday (May 26), and my MOH sent out the invitations mid-March with an RSVP deadline by April 26 (so we know how many party favours are needed).

    As for theme and attendance, mine is just a small shower (30 people tops), and it's mostly family (and some friends). There's no huge theme and hoopla, it's just a good time to celebrate my upcoming wedding. I think you need to start planning yours ASAP and get things going, otherwise you're not going to be giving your guests enough notice for your shower!

  • Candace
    Featured May 2019 Ontario
    Candace ·

    Most of the bridal showers I have been to have been on a Saturday afternoon and have lasted for 2-3 hours. Most of them also have a different theme from the wedding and geared more towards the Bride's interests(mine was a Disney theme and my friends is Harry Potter).

    Invites can go out 4-6 weeks prior to but I would for sure ask for RSVPs so you know how much food you need and you can plan games accordingly.

    I also didn't have a lot of girlfriends that I invited but even with having some older people there they got into it because they all knew me and were there to celebrate the upcoming wedding

  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Stephanie ·

    This was mine about a month ago!

    Sunday Brunch - 11am - 3pm

    We sent out invites about 1.5 months prior, and asked for RSVPs

    This was a seated event at an Inn with a buffet lunch so we needed to know how many people were coming and made a seating plan!

    Mine was a perfect mix of family and friends (about 50 people total) and it was absolutely wonderful!

    My girls did all of the decorations and games themselves, they DID match the theme of the wedding but you for sure do not have to!

  • Becky
    Featured September 2019 Ontario
    Becky ·

    Most traditionally have it on a Sunday afternoon- as a guest i would prefer it. I would say at least 2 months notice. Most showers I have went to have been low key and no theme. People can defiantly do a theme and doesn't need to match. I would request rsvps as you need to know how much food to have. They usually tend to be 1-4 as people arrive late, few games, then open gifts and visit. Depending on crowd and opening gifts can take long time.

    I would do games like a questionair- its about you and your FH and they try to get answers right, and then whoever says bride game with pins, food- I would do finger foods: small sandwiches, fruit, veggies, chips/dip, meatballs, stuff like that, nacho dip.

  • Cindy
    Devoted July 2019 Ontario
    Cindy Online ·
    My shower is this Sunday. It is Kate Spade themed with pink gold and black. The shower is hosted by my mom and sister with planning assistance from the bridal party. I hope they come up with minute to win it or game show activities. I did a few things for my shower in terms of planning but the activities are unknown by me.
    I invited mostly colleagues but who have become my friend base. Other than my work friends my circle is small too. 3 of 4 of my bridesmaids are colleagues.
    We had RSVP but one thing I forgot was to have people note allergies or restrictions like for the wedding rsvps
  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
    My shower was on a Saturday, but that is because the bachelorette happened the same day. I like Sundays for showers as Saturday is my day to get stuff done.
    I think 2 months prior is good for the invitations.
    Theme does not have to be related to the wedding! I don’t even think my shower had a theme...
    I would suggest RSVPs. Makes planning for food a lot easier!
    2 hours is a good length! I was at one that was over three and it was too long! They played 5 games, plus made the bride guess which guest wrote each memory, and there were about 30 guests so it was a lot of presents to open! I don’t mind hanging out after a shower, but three hours of planned activity was long (and I like shower games!)
  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    Love the minute to win it idea! Some of the best showers I’ve been to have had game shows turned bridal! I think I am of the minority that I like the corny shower games! But also appreciate the work that is put into adapting other games!
  • Kelly
    Devoted September 2019 Manitoba
    Kelly ·

    Generally Sundays seem to be most popular for showers

    My mom is planning ours in June and she wants to send out the invites pretty soon. I already received an invitation in March for a shower in May.

    Do whatever colours you want girl! Our wedding invitations didn't even match our supposed wedding colours. We just picked what we liked.

    I'd say request RSVPs. You'll never regret requesting them, but you might regret not requesting them. Helpful to know for how much food to provide.

    re: not having a lot of girlfriends....I feel you on this. I struggled to put together a wedding party. I only have 3 on my side and one is a guy! You're not along in this.

    We're actually having a coed shower. Not for that reason, I just didn't want a hen party.

    2 hours seems like a good length. You probably don't even need to put an ending time on it to be honest.

    Most showers have games. I usually HATE those games haha. My mom wants to do minute to win it games, which sounds MUCH better than making wedding dresses out of toilet paper lol

    For food, we're doing a backyard BBQ, with beer and sangria, super casual vibe, nothing crazy. Probably wont really decorate. maybe do some cute string lights or something? My friend did a wine and cheese thing. I've also been to a few English tea party showers with fancy finger sandwiches, cakes and dainties. Food is totally up to you and it doesn't have to be extravagant at all!

  • Janaya
    Devoted August 2019 Saskatchewan
    Janaya ·

    You ladies are so helpful! thank you for all of the ideas!

  • Shyrelle
    Beginner September 2019 Alberta
    Shyrelle ·
    1)Sunday seems to be popular and doesn't break up the weekend the same.
    2)Invites depends how much time you have(my engagement to wedding is only 5 months total), how many people you want to make sure come(less notice might get less people), what you're doing(do you need reservations).
    3)Do the gold and pink thing! It sounds lovely, and very feminine/bridal which us what your party is for right?
    4)RSVPs are easier for amount of food but again depends on your style of party, I wouldn't say necessary.
    5)I've never kept female friends well, more "one of the guys" I guess. I'd invite the coworkers if you get along. I've been to bridal showers that I wasn't even invited to the wedding lol.
    6)Sounds like a perfect amount of time! Are you doing the fun little games to help fill the time? It would be less time of awkward talking to the older women.
  • Kelsie
    Super July 2020 Ontario
    Kelsie ·
    1. I think the day depends on your preference and budget. Saturday afternoons a lot of venues will likely be booked, and of course Sundays are likely cheaper!

    2. Id say invites should go out 1.5-2 months before just to give you time to get the attendee numbers.

    3.your theme definitely doesn’t need to reflect your wedding theme. Lots of girls I know did a Kate Spade theme which is cool with all the bright colours!

    4.in my opinion, you definitely want RSVPs, it’ll help you prepare for how much food you need, drinks, etc.

    5. Bridal showers are usually 2-3 hours for the ones I’ve been to. Otherwise it gets to be too long.

    dont worry about not having girlfriends! I’m in the same boat. I’m inviting all the women I’ve invited to the wedding on my side and my FHs side. So family will be able to chat with family, friends with friends. You’ll be fine! It’ll be a great time!
  • Erin
    Expert May 2020 Ontario
    Erin ·

    I myself have only been to showers on Sundays but it's whatever works for you and your mom. For sure request RSVP's so you know how many ppl are coming to plan for food and space. Food wise I would just have finger foods. You are having it after lunch so nothing too heavy. If you are going to do any games I have seen prizes for the longest married, who's anniversary date is closest to your wedding date. If your future in-laws are not hosting a shower for you, you can include his mom, aunts, sisters, cousins, girlfriends of his groomsmen.

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