Officiant problems

Definitely have a talk with him and express your concerns, if there's a legitimate problem, hopefully that'll give him the wake up call he needs to rock your ceremony!

There's always special circumstances, maybe he had a good reason to be tardy at the other wedding?

But all in all tardiness is a no go! Off the script? This isn't hollywood, it's meant to be traditional, unless you guys decide it to not be.

I would be upfront with him from the get go. Just tell him you guys are very specific about what you want to be said & also tell him the wedding starts 30 minutes before the actual time, so he wont be late, just in case.

Good luck xx

If you are worried about him being late just tell him you'd like to meet with him before the ceremony one last time 30 minutes early?

Check out reviews if possible. If he is a bad officiant he will have a track record

I would speak with your officiant and make sure that you are all on the same page and that he know exactly what you do or do not want as part of your ceremony. I would then reassure your family that you have talked to him about things and that they need not have any concerns anymore.

Meet wIth him again to sit down and go over the plan for the day and do a pre rehearsal with just the 3 of you to make sure your all on the same page. Also, it really isn’t any of your families business who is doing GE ceremony so if they continue I would just say “thanks for the input but we are happy with who we chose and don’t need the extra criticism right now”.

It could be that those couples didn’t make sure they were on the same page as the officiant (what they want AND what they don’t). Most officiants will want to not just recite the script but add some personal touch for the couple so maybe that’s the part that was miscommunicated with the couples.

Reassure yourself by calling or emailing your officiant and check that they will be on time.

Other family members may have had that issue and hopefully cone through on yours. Hope for the best or look now of you can get another officiant in a month time.

See if you can find other other people who have used your officiant. A local wedding Facebook group, for example. It could be this was just a one-off, it could be that happened earlier in their career and they have learned from it...just because they did it once does not mean they will do it again.

I would have another chat with your officiant. Ask that he stay on point. There’s always a chance this will happen but if you are straight up with him, he might get the hint. Might be tough finding another officiant so close to the wedding but if you are having doubts look into what’s available!