Officiating weddings is such a joy for me. To stand witness to the depth of hope, faith, excitment and vision within two individuals coming together in a commitment to love, is simply, an honor.
Building a relationship with my couples, beginning with the planning of their vision ceremony, brings a sense of intimate connection, that is not soon forgotten. As with many of my couples we stay in touch, sometimes with further ceremonial involvements, such as memorials, baby blessings etc.
Some people are interested in my marital status and path of relationship, so I thought I would share a bit about my journey.
I didn't get married until I was 50! I never saw myself married or raising a family, as I knew I was to be married to Life itself with chosen family members and young folks along the way. I also didn't wish to choose between the genders. As a bi-sexual woman, who loves the soul of another, the commitment of marriage to one, didn't seem possible for me.
When I did choose to get married, there were many extenuating circumstances - I was a brand new spiritual leader of a Centre I founded in Calgary and the care provider for my mother, and felt that marriage just seemed right for me then somehow.
I have been married now for 15yrs, to Maureen. We have walked through many changes in ourselves and with each other in that time, including a 2 year separation due to her health issues and our common need at a later age in life, to realize what our own needs were, and then to meet them through self responsiveness, rather than unrealistic expectation upon each other.
We have never been so happy together. Our relationship is unique, just like everyone else's - to each their own.
I found that my need to 'keep my options opening' was another way of saying - I don't want to be bound by a commitment to 'one.' I now know, that in commiting to myself first, I am unbound in loving and being loved.
As your officiant, I know the same for you. No matter the form of your present choice in relationship, or of past relational experiences, you are growing into the Love that you are. You are learning how to share this love, with less conditioning and compromise, with an ever opening heart and perpective on what is possible by mean of you as an individual and through your vision as a couple.
I for one am happy for the two of you, in having found one another as a means to love and be loved.
After all, Love is all there is, how grand is that!