Writing Your Own Vows

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Thank you, I appreciate the advice and sharing your little quirky funny things you will add! I for sure want a few of those in there.

I’m not completely finished mine yet- but I’m a bit more sappy... so mine are mostly serious, but I made sure in each little blurb to add something cute/funny (like I promise not to judge him while he sits in his gaming chair for 10 hours ignoring the world).... and FH Tells me he will be adding that he promises to get a second job to fund my Louis Vuitton habit 🙂 just go with it, and speak from the heart...crack a little joke if the mood strikes you... I’m sure whatever you choose will be perfect!!! ❤️

I would make notes when he does something that really makes you happy jot down how you feel. when youre with your family watch him interact with other and write down how you feel about it and i would go from there

We wrote our own vows, and we did share them once with each other beforehand to make sure they were of similar length and sentiment. I don't think sharing them before the wedding took away their meaning or impact, and it saved us any awkwardness of not having the same "vibe". I don't mind sharing ours. We had a non-religious ceremony that we scripted ourselves (with the help of our officiant).

Mine:

Danny, even before the day we met,

I knew you were the one for me.

The person I wanted to cross an ocean for.

And when we did meet, the world felt right.

It was as if we had always been together.

I could not remember a time before you.

You are my best friend; and today you become my husband.

From this day forward, I promise to try to bring as much
laughter and happiness into your life as you have brought into mine.

I promise to support and encourage you,

trust and respect you,

as you have always supported and respected me.

I also promise to wash the dishes, occasionally,

and to fold the clean clothes in the hamper.

I promise to always make you smile when you’re feeling down,

and when you’re happy too.

But most of all, I promise to love you unconditionally,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in sickness and in health.

So, in the company of the most important people in our
lives,

I promise to be your life's partner,

and to share every day with
you for as long as we both shall live.

His:

Marissa,

Today, in front of our friends and family, I take you to be my lawful wedded wife.

In doing so, I promise to do my best to make our lives a true partnership.

When times are good, I’ll be there.

When times are bad, I’ll be there.

When you need me, I’ll be there.

10 years ago, when we first met, you were in your first year of university, while I was trying to find a direction in life. You were in Ottawa. I was in Clara. We were 3000 miles apart. Today, we’re right here with no ocean between us.

You’ve helped me grow as a person. You’ve believed in me. You’ve helped me focus and find a direction. My life is all the better because you are in it. As we move forward, I vow to make your life as happy, fulfilling, and meaningful as you have made mine.

I love you.

I'm not ready to write mine yet, but I've stumbled on some inspiration on Pinterest that I've liked. I seem to like ones about giving yourself more than taking the other person that I've heard in older more traditional vows.


I agree with you, I won't say anything I don't 100% like or agree with.

Our Officient has a template and the words are so astute and in fact I cried when I read them! We want to make the same vow to each other and that’s why we wanted to go with a template. I have been to some weddings and the couple wrote their own vows that sounded like they were lifted from a google search. However if you are collaborating together I am sure they will be meaningful to you both - which is the point!

We wrote our own vows and kept them secret before hand. We did check in with each other when we were finalizing them just to compare our word counts to ensure they were around the same length. We both started with mentioning how important the other one was to us and how much we love them. Then we went into making promises and vows. You can have some fun with it, definitely reflect your relationship and personality in them. Just be careful not to use so many inside jokes that your guests who are listening are left confused and out of the loop.

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I like that you both created a structure to follow - one of the reasons we decided not to keep it secret is because FH is worried his will be vastly different from mine and sound strange.

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Ooh! We are the opposite - I have a way with words and FH is more action based.

I love your structure - that sounds exactly like what I want to do. Thanks!

We would have except my husband doesn't like to do public speaking.
Make it come from your heart what makes her the person she is, how much she means to you now and for the future to come ahead. Crack a few good funny lines to break out laughter enlightening others.

I am in no way as articulate as FH, he just has a way with words that I seriously envy, but despite that we're both going to write our own vows. I've written up a rough draft of the kinds of things I want to say, the basic structure of mine is: how I fell in love with him, what I love/admire about him, then some promises/vows some of which are funny in a cute way that means something to us, and some more meaningful or heartfelt. Then a quote that both of us understand and kind of sums up our relationship.

We're keeping ours secret, but we're both following a similar structure.
1) Say something about our relationship, the time we've spent together, how we knew this was "it"
2) Say some of the things we love most about the other person and our relationship 3) Make promises and vows.
Mine are mostly serious but I sprinkled a few funny lines in there that I know he will love and that our guests will understand and appreciate. Honestly, vows come in all shapes and sizes. Just speak from the heart!