Question for everyone: I’m struggling thinking about who will marry us. I’m likely going to hire an officiant because I don’t really want a friend or family member to marry us, and I would like to have some religious aspects to our ceremony such as a prayer, but I don’t want it to be over the top because my fiancé and I aren’t all that religious. Is this normal? How did you decide who will marry you if you don’t want something all that religious? Thanks!
We hired out officiant from WeddingWire and she is GREAT!! We get married next Saturday (20th) and we talked about various types of ceremonies. I would talk to whomever you meet with and discuss your wishes.
When looking at officiants make sure to look for someone who can customise the ceremony. Usually if you find someone who does both religious and non-religious they are willing to be alot more willing to go into the religious side of things as much as you wish for them to.
We went with an officiant who includes a few nondescript readings into the ceremony. And I made a special request to have my mother do a prayer before we start the ceremony. That was a nice middle ground.
Our ceremony venue (Guild Inn) recommended an officiant because we didn't have anyone in mind and aren't religious. We met with a couple of people from Enduring Promises and then confirmed the guy we sort of liked more (both were really nice and open to our indecisiveness). Enduring Promises has a template with suggestions that we fill out and the officiant gives us guidance if we want it along the way. There are various sections on the template (opening greeting, prayer, reading, vows, etc) and then hundreds of suggestions you can copy/paste, mix and match or just write your own. It has been super helpful to have all the suggestions!
We've also hired an Officiant. Most of them are pretty flexible with the type of ceremony you'd like to have. They'll work with you to remove or incorporate aspects to the ceremony to make it your own, if that makes sense!
We hired an officiant off of wedding wire - he said that he can add in some religious things if we want (we won't be), so I'm sure you will be able to find at least one officiant that is willing to add a verse or two from the bible into the ceremony for you
Most of the officiants I've talked to are willing to work with you and your beliefs. You can choose what you would like included and they will use that. Just contact a few and let them know what you want. I'm certain you will find someone perfect for your big day!
This is normal! We are having an officiant marry us, FH is Italian and they are religious, but he really isn't, neither am I. We are doing one prayer in our ceremony, and then a reading. So there is a little bit in the ceremony, but it is not over the top!
An officiant will help. I’m not overly religious so I didn’t want a religious ceremony but like you I wanted religious aspects - like reading and prayer. My ceremony will be customized for that. Good luck!
I’ve found that a lot of officiants offer some sort of prayer for a ceremony, you just need to talk to them. This isn’t saying that they all will, so I recommend that when you’re looking to hire one, you ask first.