Jayda
Newbie June 2020 Saskatchewan

Who marries us if we’re non-religious?

Jayda, on 8/July/2019 at 02:14 Posted in Wedding ceremony
Question for everyone: I’m struggling thinking about who will marry us. I’m likely going to hire an officiant because I don’t really want a friend or family member to marry us, and I would like to have some religious aspects to our ceremony such as a prayer, but I don’t want it to be over the top because my fiancé and I aren’t all that religious. Is this normal? How did you decide who will marry you if you don’t want something all that religious? Thanks!
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  • Tonya
    Curious July 2019 Ontario
    Tonya ·
    We hired out officiant from WeddingWire and she is GREAT!! We get married next Saturday (20th) and we talked about various types of ceremonies. I would talk to whomever you meet with and discuss your wishes.
  • M
    Beginner July 2021 New Brunswick
    Megan ·
    We are getting a lawyer, they are just going to stick to what is legally necessary
  • Taylor
    Frequent user October 2020 Alberta
    Taylor ·

    When looking at officiants make sure to look for someone who can customise the ceremony. Usually if you find someone who does both religious and non-religious they are willing to be alot more willing to go into the religious side of things as much as you wish for them to.

  • Katelyn
    Devoted October 2019 Ontario
    Katelyn ·
    We went with an officiant who includes a few nondescript readings into the ceremony. And I made a special request to have my mother do a prayer before we start the ceremony. That was a nice middle ground.
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·

    We went the non religious route too and hired a Officiant altering the whole program to adjust around the one word that wouldn't be mentioned. It worked out well and great.

  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·

    I feel like most people are hiring officiants for weddings now-a-days. Definitely meet with a few and ask them if they can include prayer in an otherwise non-religious ceremony.

  • Megan
    Curious November 2019 Ontario
    Megan ·

    Our ceremony venue (Guild Inn) recommended an officiant because we didn't have anyone in mind and aren't religious. We met with a couple of people from Enduring Promises and then confirmed the guy we sort of liked more (both were really nice and open to our indecisiveness). Enduring Promises has a template with suggestions that we fill out and the officiant gives us guidance if we want it along the way. There are various sections on the template (opening greeting, prayer, reading, vows, etc) and then hundreds of suggestions you can copy/paste, mix and match or just write your own. It has been super helpful to have all the suggestions!

  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie ·

    We've also hired an Officiant.
    Most of them are pretty flexible with the type of ceremony you'd like to have. They'll work with you to remove or incorporate aspects to the ceremony to make it your own, if that makes sense!

  • Tori
    Featured October 2019 Manitoba
    Tori ·

    We hired an officiant off of wedding wire - he said that he can add in some religious things if we want (we won't be), so I'm sure you will be able to find at least one officiant that is willing to add a verse or two from the bible into the ceremony for you

  • Shannon
    Beginner September 2020 Quebec
    Shannon ·
    We are asking a friend to marry us. We really don't want some random person
  • Amanda
    Curious October 2020 Ontario
    Amanda ·
    Most of the officiants I've talked to are willing to work with you and your beliefs. You can choose what you would like included and they will use that. Just contact a few and let them know what you want. I'm certain you will find someone perfect for your big day!
  • Casey
    Featured October 2019 Ontario
    Casey ·

    This is normal! We are having an officiant marry us, FH is Italian and they are religious, but he really isn't, neither am I. We are doing one prayer in our ceremony, and then a reading. So there is a little bit in the ceremony, but it is not over the top!

  • Kathy
    Frequent user August 2019 Ontario
    Kathy ·
    An officiant will help. I’m not overly religious so I didn’t want a religious ceremony but like you I wanted religious aspects - like reading and prayer. My ceremony will be customized for that. Good luck!
  • Amelia
    Expert September 2020 Ontario
    Amelia ·

    Definitely an officiant. When we met with ours, he specifically asked if and how much religion we want incorporated into the ceremony. It's completely customizable according to each couple.

  • Kelsie
    Featured July 2020 Ontario
    Kelsie ·
    You can definitely get an officiant. A few friends of ours got to interview their officiant and discuss exactly what they wanted for their ceremony.
  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
    I’ve found that a lot of officiants offer some sort of prayer for a ceremony, you just need to talk to them. This isn’t saying that they all will, so I recommend that when you’re looking to hire one, you ask first.

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