Amanda
Featured June 2019 Ontario

Who is standing at your side on your big day?

Amanda, on 30/July/2019 at 12:02

Posted in Plan a wedding 48

Heyyyy you newly engaged planners! Have you picked your wedding party yet? Who is with you? How did you decide? How did you ask them? Tell us EVERYTHING!!!! I had my 2 closest friends as my bridesmaids and my brother was my best man. A little non traditional but it was awesome to have my big brother...

Heyyyy you newly engaged planners!

Have you picked your wedding party yet? Who is with you? How did you decide? How did you ask them? Tell us EVERYTHING!!!!

I had my 2 closest friends as my bridesmaids and my brother was my best man. A little non traditional but it was awesome to have my big brother stand with me, he even picked up my dress when I was trying to spin around at the altar.

It is such a fun process and you want great people spending the day with you.


Share:

48 Comments

  • Amanda
    Featured June 2019 Ontario
    Amanda ·
    View quoted message

    I think it really depends on the relationship. When my brother got married, I was not asked to be a bridesmaid and I wasn't hurt by it. At that time I wasn't very close with his now wife, had she asked me I would have known it wasn't because she wanted me by her side, but because I was the sister of her future husband. I personally do not think that is a good enough reason. There are other ways you can include family though if you are concerned feelings may be hurt. If you are going to have an MC, or task someone to kind of be the coordinator of the day if you don't have a wedding planner. Otherwise as cheesy as it sounds - follow your heart.

  • Michelle
    Frequent user October 2020 Nova Scotia
    Michelle ·

    I have four people on my side of the wedding party, two "of honours" (I'm avoiding saying "maid" since one of them is non-binary)

    My best friend since Jr High, two of mine and my FH's closest friends that I've known the entire time we've been together, and my younger cousin who will always be my first best friend.

  • Dionne
    Frequent user August 2019 Ontario
    Dionne ·

    I have chosen my daughter, as my maid of honour, and my dearest longtime friend at matron of honour, along with my cousin and 2 nieces. When you are close with your family it's the best so friends don't get offended if they are not asked. My son and mother will escort me up the aisle and then my son will join the bridal party.

    Good luck and congrats to all the newly engaged! Have fun

  • K
    Frequent user July 2024 Ontario
    Katrine ·
    View quoted message
    Have you had to explain your decision to some friends who assumed they would be chosen? I know a couple of my girl friends would be hurt by not being chosen and I don’t know how to approach the situation.
  • Kaila
    Beginner June 2020 Ontario
    Kaila ·
    View quoted message
    Pick your forever friends or family.... or just people you will see in your photos 10 years from now and not wanna tear up the photo lol
  • K
    Frequent user July 2024 Ontario
    Katrine ·
    View quoted message
    I completely agree with this! I’m worried to choose friends for that exact reason. I don’t want to regret my decision down the road.
  • Kaila
    Beginner June 2020 Ontario
    Kaila ·
    We are having all our sisters (5 total) my 2 brothers and our 3 best guy friends!!!
    We tried to pick people we know will be in our lives forever and who will be with us every step of our marriage!!!
    My sister in law has been married to my brother for 4 years and she doesn’t speak to one person who was in her wedding party so when she looks at her wedding pictures it’s kind of sad everytime!!!!
    Pick people that will be with you for life!!!
  • K
    Frequent user July 2024 Ontario
    Katrine ·
    How do you decide if you should put your future in laws in your party?
  • P
    Newbie August 2021 Ontario
    Paige ·
    Our wedding is going to be small, we agreed to have 3 each for my fiancee and mine sides. Since he doesnt know who all he wants for his side and I did have orginally had 5 bridemaids in mind, but things change.

    I will have my best friend as my maid of honor (amazing friend and no other person is like her), my sister (even though we are not the closest), and the man of honors wife.
    But who know things may change, we dont get married until 2021.

    I have not officially asked my girls yet, my maid of honor knows, my sister had no idea and the man of honors wife said no at first but i will ask her again when its closer to the time. But its understandable because she just had a baby and her husband has had a talk with her about saying no. "not sure if that'sa good thing or not"
  • Katelyn
    Curious May 2020 British Columbia
    Katelyn ·
    I have my oldest friends standing with me. My MOH I’ve known for 15 years, one of my bridesmaids I’ve known for about the same, but we’ve been close friends for 10 years, and my other bridesmaid I’ve known for about 8 years, and she’s helped me through some rough stuff. I asked them by putting together a cute little gift box with some cactus stickers, a lip balm, sheet mask, and some chocolates with a card that I printed off on silver card stock. My MOH I asked at my first dress shopping trip because she lives out of town and I was there for a concert, so she had no idea I was asking and started to cry, it was wonderful. I had 2 other BMs in mind, but wanted to keep our wedding parties smaller because of limited space at our venue, and I didn’t want to have a huge group of people. My fiancé has his brother as his best man, and 2 closest friends from high school whose weddings he was in. He didn’t do much of anything special when he asked them, but is going to purchase part of their day of attire as a thank you gift.
  • Karine
    Curious October 2019 Quebec
    Karine ·
    My fiancé and I originally wanted a very intimate wedding and knew we would only want 1 person each standing with us. For me it was a no brainer, my best friend of 15 years (even though I have 2 sisters). However on my fiancé’s side, he chose his only brother (which made the decision easier as he did not want to have to chose between his 2 best friends). You would think why not have 2 extra groomsmen and bridesmaids? For one, makes choosing clothing colors a lot easier as his brother lives in another country, second, 2 are exes not on best of terms, and third, most important, we really preferred to have a small wedding party ❤️
  • Amber
    Beginner October 2020 Ontario
    Amber ·
    I asked my best friend to be my maid of Honor. I actually asked her before I was even engaged because I was drunk at a wedding and being sentimental. So afterwards, a quick text telling her how much I love her and needed her on my big day was an easy ask. Then I also asked my sister and another good friend to be my bridesmaids. I considered my fiancé's sister as well, but we want to keep the parties small since our wedding is also very small (about 50 guest estimate).
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·

    Its true having a wedding party that is beside you be part of your life and day. The fact that close friends/family are chosen for the right reasons. Our MOHs and BM (Best Men) took part of the reception entrance except for one and not giving a speech, disappointed in that too. He still was thanked though he being shy wasn't the best thing to do.

    Overall, we were happy with our choices made and being long term friends for the most part.

  • Janessa
    Newbie June 2020 Ontario
    Janessa ·
    Ours if fairly big. I have two co-maids of honour, one is my best friend of 17 years and the other is a good friend I met through my fiancé. Then I have a friend from elementary school, a friend from highschool and a friend who was my boss in University but is now a good friend. For boys we have my fiancé's best friend as our best man, his college friend, two of his school friends from back in India who immigrated at the same time as him and my little brother as well as my friends son as our junior groomsman
  • Amanda
    Featured June 2019 Ontario
    Amanda ·
    View quoted message

    Or no one! Initially we really didn't want a wedding party, it wasn't something that was important to us and we knew we didn't want all the pre wedding parties so really their only job is to stand beside you. Our minds were changed, but both of us still have said we would have been completely fine standing up there alone. It was about us and quite honestly, if we were the only people who showed up that day we would have been more than happy.

  • Amanda
    Featured June 2019 Ontario
    Amanda ·
    View quoted message

    We weren't going to have anyone either.. then one night we hung out with each of our 2 oldest friends and it was the funnest night ever, so we decided hey - why not. this could be fun.

Comment on this discussion

×