Breanna
Curious October 2019 Newfoundland and Labrador

Whats necessary?

Breanna, on 28/December/2017 at 13:59 Posted in Plan a wedding
So I'm starting to plan some of the smaller things and some old fashion family want things done a certain way. Such as:
-We pay for bridal party's attire
-Thank you favors
-Wedding cake
Theres no way we can afford to pay for all the dresses and tuxs. But anyone have any ideas for wedding favors that are inexpensive and wont be thrown away/not used/gone to waste.
Also neither myself or FH like cake so any ideas on something else we could do?

Much appreciated
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  • Courtney
    Featured July 2018 Ontario
    Courtney

    You definitely do not have to do favours.. but if you end up doing them, there are some great inexpensive ideas (which some people have mentioned already) like candy from the dessert table, things that double as centerpieces, etc.

    I'm doing book marks. SO cheap to print and our center pieces are vintage books so I think it will tie in nice. They'll be our wedding colours, have a nice little quote on them and will also have a heart on them that can be popped off and planted as its a wild flower packet!


    We did away with cake too. My mum was mortified at first, but has backed off when I pointed out our venue supplies not one, but two desserts after a 4 course meal and apps and a late night food bar so no one will WANT to eat anything more.


    We did not pay for our bridal party's outfits. It's too much money. We did however, try and pick outfits that could be reworn.. so the guys bought (or rented.. up to them) a charcoal grey suit and the girls are in a silvery grey dress.. they picked out the brand and I picked the colour. They're all in whatever dress from that brand they picked.

    We're covering the groomsmen's tie and pocket squares and I am trying to cover the cost of make up for my girls.

  • Jackie
    Devoted April 2019 Ontario
    Jackie
    I鈥檓 not sure what the best solution is but between the both of you, you will figure it out. Lots of great feed back and advise given by many here to consider.
    I was thinking about all your questions and then started to think 馃 what will I pay for. Because we are having our children as our wedding party I almost feel we have to pay for the dresses and the tuxedos. Plus the hair and make up.
    Dont get me even talking about party favors. So much to think about. Wow
  • Stephanie
    Frequent user May 2018 Ontario
    Stephanie

    We are not paying for our wedding party as that would be so much! idk how some people do it.


    We are doing chocolate wedding favours. Go to a chocolate shop and you can order something pretty in bulk and then put them in pretty bags.


    We are doing a cookie bar and a popcorn machine rather than a cake as we dont like it either!

  • Alexa
    Devoted July 2018 Alberta
    Alexa

    You can try to do cupcakes instead of cake(that is what we are doing) and for thank you favors we are doing little kiss chocolates in a mini bag.

  • B
    Newbie August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca
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    I agree with everything you just said! We plan to do some sort of dessert as the favour to-go and something else offbeat for our late-night dessert.

  • Lor
    Frequent user August 2018 Ontario
    Lor

    We are doing "hugs & Kisses" from the Mr & Mrs.

    And we didn't pay for the wedding attire. The men are renting. i think my FH Is paying for deposit that will stay on the account for the guys so that it costs them less. they will pay for the remaining balance when they get the suits. and they will get engraved flasks with a bottle of alcohol as their gift. Im paying for the Hair for the girls and getting them a personalized hanger, and a nice jewelery for the wedding. (a bracelet for the girls and a necklace for the Matron of Honour)

    As for no cake, you can always do your favorite dessert and get lots so others can share in your treat.

  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
    Michelle

    On the fence about favors, if we do them we are thinking of getting bubbles then during our 1st dance they can be blown and make awesome pictures as well. That way they are used during the event and won't go to waste hopefully.... saw packs of 50 for like $22 at Micheal's.

    In regards for the wedding party, my FH is getting his guys to pay for their own tuxes whether they choose to purchase or rent is up to them.

    For myself I told my girls I would be willing to cover a portion of their dresses or cover their hair and makeup (if they chose to want them don professionally) but I CANNOT do both, it would be up to them what they decided to do. They chose to have me cover a portion of their dresses instead which works out better for me (cheaper haha)

    We aren't doing a cake either, our 4 course menu has creme brulee for dessert so we will be eating that instead and we are doing a midnight snack.

  • Meghan
    Frequent user August 2018 Newfoundland and Labrador
    Meghan
    We鈥檙e skipping the favours and doing a midnight snack instead.
    Our bridal party will be purchasing their own dresses and tux鈥檚 but I think i鈥檓 Going to buy my girls their jewelry as part of their gift.
  • Vinod
    Master August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod
    I should have added in my repsonse that the wedding party paid for their outfits. The other 2 things we paid for ourselves.
  • Kristine
    Frequent user October 2017 Ontario
    Kristine

    We didn't pay for the wedding party's attire.

    I did pay for the girls hair/makeup.


    We ordered wedding themed M&Ms and put them in little boxes we ordered from Amazon (great price!) as our table favours since I knew they would be eaten!


    We did have a traditional wedding cake since I knew guests would eat it. You could do cupcakes or a pasty table?


    I went to a wedding where the cupcakes were served right after dinner and they hardly got eaten, I think they are more popular when served during the dancing portion (maybe 10pm) because guests have been dancing/drinking and going to get a sweet treat is a nice break!

  • Taylor
    Frequent user June 2018 Ontario
    Taylor

    Instead of favors we are doing a candy and chocolate table, including mini burlap bags that say "love is sweet" so people to take some with them. Is there another dessert you prefer that you could serve? We are doing cake and the hall serves pies too but my FH likes cookies, so cookies and milk was an idea, or a donut table.

  • Vinod
    Master August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod
    Our favours were crystal tealight votive holder.
    Wedding cake abd assorted pastries were served.


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  • Erin
    Featured September 2017 Ontario
    Erin

    We did not pay for the wedding party's attire though we did buy the ties and pocket squares for the groomsmen as we wanted something specific.

    I agree with many here that favours aren't necessary anymore. We did a spice rub mix for our favour. Got all the ingredients at Bulk Barn and then bought small bottles at the Dollar Store. It was easy and relatively inexpensive and people loved them!

    I also don't like cake so we did a bunch of mixed desserts and just put those out on a table.

  • Vinod
    Master August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod
    We didn't pay for any of the family attire or MODs oufits either. We focused on ours since had to get 4 altogether.

    For ideas of favours and cake substitutions, i have boards filled with tons of ideas on pinterest under Vinod Balani.
  • Val茅rie
    Super September 2019 Quebec
    Val茅rie
    Keep in mind that you can鈥檛 please everyone and this is you and your FH鈥檚 day. You don鈥檛 have to do any of those things if you don鈥檛 want to! Sure, it might ruffle a few feathers, but if you communicate things right, there shouldn鈥檛 be a problem!!
    - I was a bridesmaid in a friend鈥檚 wedding and she paid for half of our dresses. I鈥檝e been in another where each maid had to foot the bill. You do what鈥檚 best for you and your budget!
    - I鈥檝e been to multiple weddings and I can鈥檛 remember any of the favors. So we decided to forgo them all together. Instead, we might offer 1 drink ticket after the ceremony.
    - You could do a candy bar instead, or a donut bar or a cupcake one. You could even ask family members to bake some pies if you wanted to! I think we鈥檒l be doing donuts and I can鈥檛 wait!!!
  • Holly
    Expert June 2019 Ontario
    Holly
    In no way should you have to pay for your bridal party, you're paying for the wedding so I think that's enough. We aren't paying for ours and no one has an issue with it. And we are also skipping the favors, doesn't seem necessary. My fiance loves cake but me, not so much. We have a family member who is going to do our cake for us as a gift so that's covered but since I won't eat any I was thinking of just having a variety of other desserts.

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