Curious bride July 2020 Newfoundland and Labrador

Whats necessary?

Breanna, on 28/December/2017 at 13:59 Posted in Plan a wedding
So I'm starting to plan some of the smaller things and some old fashion family want things done a certain way. Such as:
-We pay for bridal party's attire
-Thank you favors
-Wedding cake
Theres no way we can afford to pay for all the dresses and tuxs. But anyone have any ideas for wedding favors that are inexpensive and wont be thrown away/not used/gone to waste.
Also neither myself or FH like cake so any ideas on something else we could do?

Much appreciated

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  • Kristine
    Frequent user bride October 2017 Ontario
    Kristine ·

    We didn't pay for the wedding party's attire.

    I did pay for the girls hair/makeup.

    We ordered wedding themed M&Ms and put them in little boxes we ordered from Amazon (great price!) as our table favours since I knew they would be eaten!

    We did have a traditional wedding cake since I knew guests would eat it. You could do cupcakes or a pasty table?

    I went to a wedding where the cupcakes were served right after dinner and they hardly got eaten, I think they are more popular when served during the dancing portion (maybe 10pm) because guests have been dancing/drinking and going to get a sweet treat is a nice break!

  • Taylor
    Frequent user bride June 2018 Ontario
    Taylor Online ·

    Instead of favors we are doing a candy and chocolate table, including mini burlap bags that say "love is sweet" so people to take some with them. Is there another dessert you prefer that you could serve? We are doing cake and the hall serves pies too but my FH likes cookies, so cookies and milk was an idea, or a donut table.

  • Vinod
    Super groom August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
    Our favours were crystal tealight votive holder.
    Wedding cake abd assorted pastries were served.

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  • Erin
    Featured September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·

    We did not pay for the wedding party's attire though we did buy the ties and pocket squares for the groomsmen as we wanted something specific.

    I agree with many here that favours aren't necessary anymore. We did a spice rub mix for our favour. Got all the ingredients at Bulk Barn and then bought small bottles at the Dollar Store. It was easy and relatively inexpensive and people loved them!

    I also don't like cake so we did a bunch of mixed desserts and just put those out on a table.

  • Vinod
    Super groom August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
    We didn't pay for any of the family attire or MODs oufits either. We focused on ours since had to get 4 altogether.

    For ideas of favours and cake substitutions, i have boards filled with tons of ideas on pinterest under Vinod Balani.
  • Valérie
    Frequent user bride September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie Online ·
    Keep in mind that you can’t please everyone and this is you and your FH’s day. You don’t have to do any of those things if you don’t want to! Sure, it might ruffle a few feathers, but if you communicate things right, there shouldn’t be a problem!!
    - I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding and she paid for half of our dresses. I’ve been in another where each maid had to foot the bill. You do what’s best for you and your budget!
    - I’ve been to multiple weddings and I can’t remember any of the favors. So we decided to forgo them all together. Instead, we might offer 1 drink ticket after the ceremony.
    - You could do a candy bar instead, or a donut bar or a cupcake one. You could even ask family members to bake some pies if you wanted to! I think we’ll be doing donuts and I can’t wait!!!
  • Holly
    Expert bride June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
    In no way should you have to pay for your bridal party, you're paying for the wedding so I think that's enough. We aren't paying for ours and no one has an issue with it. And we are also skipping the favors, doesn't seem necessary. My fiance loves cake but me, not so much. We have a family member who is going to do our cake for us as a gift so that's covered but since I won't eat any I was thinking of just having a variety of other desserts.
  • Joey
    Administrator May 2015 Maryland
    Joey ·

    It is fine to skip favors entirely, these are not necessary, but if you want to keep it small and inexpensive some ideas are cookies, candies, chocolates, or other food items.

    As for cake, I don't like it either, and we did pies and donuts. It was fun and affordable and we could get a variety of flavors.

  • Breanna
    Curious bride July 2020 Newfoundland and Labrador
    Breanna ·
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    This is all so helpful!! Thank you so much
  • Stephanie
    Super bride July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·

    We are not paying for the bridal party attire. We did explain to them when we asked them to be in the wedding that we cannot pay for them, so they knew before saying yes that they would have that expense. For the ladies, I chose the colour and they are choosing the style, so I think it's fine that they pay for it since they can individualize it.

    Our thank you favours are doubling as our centrepieces. We are doing potted plants (one per couple). The pots will first be down the aisle, then they will be moved to the tables, then people can take them home. Another option is some type of food, because that always (or almost always!) gets eaten.

    As for cake, we aren't doing that either. We are just having the dessert table provided with the supper, and then the late night snack (also provided by the caterer). Honestly, most weddings I've been to, most of the cake is left over. My friend did ice cream sundaes instead of cake.

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