As myself and my FH have begun to plan the wedding we started talking about things we wanted and don’t want at the wedding. We actually have talked about not wanting speeches. Sometimes I just feel certain people talk about things that are irrelevant or don’t need to be said or go on and on even if you tell them they have a time limit. I would rather spend our time as a couple mingling with everyone having fun, eating and being married. Am I the only one who feels this way?
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Thank you! People in our families are up in arms about this but we truly want to have more time to dance, mingle, and enjoy each other and family. You words are truly encouraging and made me feel that we are doing what is right!
I personally want speeches at my wedding, but I don't want them to drag on. I'm thinking that if they start going over their time allotment by a bit it won't be too bad, but for the sake of keeping things all on time I will probably do what they do at the award shows and start playing them off with music I think it would be a funny thing for my DJ to do and kind of hope that it happens more than once (Of course I'm asking that anybody who is giving a speech provides a copy to the DJ so that she can gauge how much longer they need and if they are almost done then don't play them off.)
We're doing "speeches optional" as the dinner/reception aren't running very late. And I'm not forcing anyone to do a speech if they are not comfortable with public speaking. If they want to it's their choice lol for ours
We were going to nix speeches but got an earful from both our parents. We didn't see the point of speeches, but our parents made a good point : It's a great opportunity for the couple to thank everyone, as well as the parents to welcome the bride/groom in to the family and wish them an eternity of happiness.
Since we don't have a bridal party, we will only have 3 speeches max (ours, my parents and his parents). I'm limiting it to about 3 minutes each too. They'll be over before we know it!
We're not doing speeches either. we're cutting a few of the traditional parts. we left it open to family if they want to say something then they can but no one is expected to and time won't be slotted for it
We had a number of speeches: -brides dad -grooms mom & sister -brides mom -grooms best man -brides maid of honour Everyone kept their speeches clean and short. Didn’t take more than a half hour to get them all done and he guests actually loved them. We had a lot of people comment that the speeches we well done.
Speechesare really just a personal thing. If you don’t want speeches then just skip them! Totally not a big deal! Or just ask one or two people you trust to stay appropriate to give speeches.
I love the speeches! I have a half hour set aside for them during the last half hour of dinner. So we will still have plenty of time to go mingle with everyone for the rest of the night. Our best man does tend to ramble but it is part of his charm.
We had speeches and made it clear to the wedding party to keep it short 2 minutes as I also gave one on behalf of my husband. It was good and less to worry about going to let it open mic for anyone to say anything.
Give options to the wedding party to speak together and a time limit as to your parents saying what they would like and yourself at the end to finish it all.
As Kelsie said, it’s completely up to you with regards to speeches in terms of who speaks and rather you have them at all. I agree that sometimes the speeches can drag on or irrelevant/inappropriate things.
we’re having speeches. Our best man, both sets of parents and us will say something, but I do want to keep them short.
You could tell your speech makers that you’d like to keep speeches brief and maybe suggest to them a time for their speech.