Frequent user September 2019 Manitoba

Wedding party accomodations

Kelly, on 14/September/2018 at 11:46 Posted in Plan a wedding

Our wedding venue is about 45 minutes from the city, and I assume our bridal party, parents, etc will want to crash nearby and not drive home.

My fiance and I were in a bridal party a couple years ago and the bride and groom actually paid for our hotel rooms for the night. Very nice, very unexpected. I know that we cannot afford to do this for our bridal party.

Here's something I was thinking about though: What if we booked, or contributed to booking a group Air bnb for them? There's a couple in the area that can accommodate up to 10 people.

Its still expensive, but its not 1 room/person at a hotel, and it includes breakfast.

Our group is all friends and we all stay at the cabin every summer together. What are people's thoughts on this? If you were in a bridal party with a bunch of close friends and the bride and groom booked a cabin for the night for you all...would that be something you'd be okay with/like? Would asking people to contribute $20-$30 be okay? This would be additional to the gifts we'd already be getting everyone. I'm not trying to be cheap or anything lol, I'm just trying to gauge how people would feel about this if instead of $100+ for a hotel room, it was only $30. Closer to the day, if we decide we can afford to pay for everybody, then yes, we'll just do that.


15 Replies

  • Christine
    Beginner October 2019 Ontario
    Christine ·
    I like this idea! If you're worried about money, think about how they agreed to be in your wedding party in the first place. They knew it would cost them something. Maybe ask them to chip in a little bit? It couldn't hurt!
  • Kelly
    Frequent user September 2019 Manitoba
    Kelly ·
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    Only one of them has a significant other and they'll be driving home because they'll have a newborn at the wedding. I wouldn't have suggested this as a viable option if it was going to cost everybody extra...
  • Lucy
    Frequent user July 2019 Ontario
    Lucy ·

    Will the wedding party's +1s be included in that offer or just the party? If they have to book a hotel room for their partners anyway, why would they pay extra to sleep apart?

  • Vinod
    Master August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
    B&B sounds good and fin for everyone to just be together. Plus a cabin may be nice for all to hangout in the living room.
  • Julia
    Frequent user June 2019 Alberta
    Julia ·
    That sounds like a great idea. It also allows the party to keep going after the official reception. Think I may use this idea too
  • Stephanie
    Featured May 2019 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
    That sounds like an absolute BLAST!!!! Oh man if I was on a party and given that option I would 100% be all over it!!! Group hangover brunch the next day??? Yes!!!
  • Clarissa
    Devoted October 2018 Saskatchewan
    Clarissa ·
    I agree that it’s a great idea and run it by everyone to see what they think. I might take advantage of it. But then I might also enjoy going back and having my own quiet hotel room depending on how busy and hectic the few weeks before have been.
  • Kelly
    Frequent user September 2019 Manitoba
    Kelly ·
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    My fiance and I are booking a cute B&B ourselves for the night, which will be the place where the girls get ready. Its very picturesque.

    Then I was thinking that the one we book for the wedding party will serve as the place the guys get ready.

  • Peggy
    Expert May 2019 Alberta
    Peggy ·

    Definitely ok. We were considering renting an AirBnB for ourselves and our out of town wedding party; just couldn't find one that worked for getting ready in the morning as well as accommodating s all. But I think it's a great idea, so long as your wedding party is on board with it.

  • Jennifer
    Expert July 2019 Ontario
    Jennifer ·

    Its pretty awesome actually. because it ends up being cheaper for everyone involved.

    last year I was an MC/coordinator in a wedding (would have been a bridesmaid but she felt bad for me having already been in 12 weddings). and all the wedding party/their dates/bride/groom/myself and FH stayed together in an Airbnb together for 2 nights (night before the wedding, wedding night). and it was great! it was affordable. and it was so much fun.

    the bride and groom paid the deposit. but didn't collect money till we all got there. and they provided beer/booze/wine for us staying there/getting ready.

    I actually looked into for our wedding. but there wasn't places near our venue or that were big enough.

  • Gina
    Featured April 2019 Alberta
    Gina ·
    I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking them! I think it’s nice of you to do so. Especially if this particular group of people does that exact thing every summer. They would probably appreciate it and love the idea! You shouldn’t feel bad about not paying their hotel rooms or an air bnb. No one expects you to pay! My FH was in a wedding last year and we paid for our own hotel room. I would never expect any different, it was our choice to stay and not drive home.
  • Allison
    Featured October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·

    It sounds like a great idea, I'd be down if I was in your party lol.

    If you guys already cabin together every summer, they'd probably think this was thoughtful, since it ties in with how you know them personally

  • Tori
    Featured October 2019 Manitoba
    Tori ·
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    Sounds like a lucky wedding party to me

    I vote yes then

  • Kelly
    Frequent user September 2019 Manitoba
    Kelly ·
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    Oh yeah, we weren't going to spring it on them. I was going to talk to everybody first and see if they were planning to stay the night, and if they were okay with the price.

    THEN if closer to the date, we realize we can afford to pay for it, we will.

  • Tori
    Featured October 2019 Manitoba
    Tori ·

    I think that it would be okay to book it for them but if you were to ask them to contribute any money at all it should be something that you run by them first as to not put them in a situation where they HAVE to stay there.

    So yes it's ok - but only if you ask first.

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