Chelsey
Newbie September 2020 Ontario

Wedding Officiant

Chelsey, on August 14, 2019 at 13:52 Posted in Wedding ceremony

Hey ladies!

I am getting married on September 26, 2020. My fiancé and I would like to have a friend perform the ceremony and have someone else do the legal stuff either before or after. Unfortunately in Ontario people can't just get ordained online...which is a bummer.

So, my first thought is to do the legal paperwork at a municipal office/the courthouse beforehand, but I am not sure how that actually works. Does anyone have experience with this? My second thought is to hire someone who will just do the legal paperwork day of but I am not sure if officiants would like that. Alternatively I'm also looking to see if there are any photographers who are also officiants (so far I've only found one).

If it proves to be too complicated we will just hire an officiant but I want to explore my options first.

Any insight would be welcome!

Thanks!

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  • Steph
    Devoted October 2020 Ontario
    Steph ·
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    My brother actually did that for his friend's wedding, he got ordained online but I think he was more of an mc for the ceremony as opposed to the actual officiant. I wasn't there and it was a few years ago so my details are blurry, sorry! But I do know it's possible!

    Otherwise, if you're looking for an officiant, we've hired Michelle from Transcendent Ceremonies (she is on wedding wire if you want to find her). We're getting married October 24, 2020 and booked in June because we didn't want to wait. She is incredible and I've only heard amazing things about her...she literally creates a ceremony just for you! Her fee is pretty much 565 with taxes, but she's worth it! Good luck!
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  • Chelsey
    Newbie September 2020 Ontario
    Chelsey ·
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    Thanks so much for your insight! I’m going to start looking into option 3 as well, ideally I’d like to avoid having to hire another vendor. We’re trying to cut costs where possible.
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  • Katherine
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
    Katherine ·
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    I went through the same struggle! My fiancé and I are getting married in August 2021, and we wanted his mother to officiate our wedding. We did a lot of research and we found a few options:

    1. There is a way to do a course and become certified as a wedding officiant. However, this seemed very complicated, especially that my fiancé's mother lives in a different country, and it looked like it's a whole process with some things needing to be done in person.

    2. You can get an officiant to be there on your wedding day just to sign the paperwork and take care of the legal aspects. Like some people mentioned, All Seasons is a good resource for officiants. Your friend could still do the whole ceremony.

    3. You can get legally married at City Hall prior to your wedding day and your friend could perform the ceremony on the day of.

    We're going with option 3. It's cheaper, simpler, and since we're having an intimate wedding, we wanted to avoid having a stranger there to sign the paperwork. Good luck! Smiley smile

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  • Chelsey
    Newbie September 2020 Ontario
    Chelsey ·
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    Thanks everyone for the great insight! Super helpful and I will definitely check out officiants.

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  • Megan
    Curious January 2020 Ontario
    Megan ·
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    There are officiants that will allow you to have someone else conduct part of the ceremony - but in Ontario they legally have to be the ones to do specific things - like confirming you are there of your own free will and declaring you husband and wife.

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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    Asking a friend or family member isn't a bad idea at all to marry you and FH. The only thing they would have to do is an online certification to do so.

    An alternative is to go the legal process of an Officiant through the City Hall of the actual building or outside which will be an extra cost depending on the area. Other Officiants can also marry you from outside source that have their license and may charge less. Seek your options fitting the best decision based on who will want to do the online certification or budget your cost for an actual Officiant.

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  • Amanda
    Super June 2019 Ontario
    Amanda ·
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    You do not need to be ordained to perform a ceremony as long as there is an officiant present.

    My sister in law performed our ceremony, our officiant stood by and witnessed and provided the paperwork and filed it afterwards.

    We used All Seasons and they were amazing.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    Check out all seasons officiants - you can have a friend perform the ceremony and one of their officiants will make it all legal!

    All seasons wedding officiants


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  • Caitlyn
    Featured January 2020 Ontario
    Caitlyn ·
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    My FSIL wanted a family member to officiate their wedding and she wasn’t ordained so they looked into various options of how to do the legal portion of the ceremony and one of them was hiring an officiant to just be there waiting in the wings on the wedding to do the legal portion and licence signing. So officiants definitely will come on the wedding day to just do the parts of the ceremony that an unordained person cannot do.
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  • Meaghan
    Featured September 2019 Ontario
    Meaghan ·
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    There are definitely officiants who would do that. Our officiant actually includes that possibility (in the context of responsibilities) in his contract. It may be worth asking a few.
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