Traditional Wedding Vows? Keep or Cancel?

We are having a very spiritual ceremony and there is no sickness and health thing but something similar. i will be crying from the moment i wake up till the moment i go to bed because thats who i am lol. but my FH is autistic and when he feels even the slightest bit uncomfortable he goes non verbal. so even tho he knows everyone there he doesnt like the attention and so even getting "i do" out of him will probably not happen. he will probably just nod. so getting a whole speech out of him is impossible. we have decided to write letters/notes instead which will be given before the ceremony. we might even be cute about it and have our service dogs deliver them. so his will deliver mine to him and mine will deliver his to me.

We're going to modernize our vows. Some of the same ideas will be there, but I feel like death is such a morbid word on a happy day.

Mixed feelings... I think the traditional vows are very nice and a good foundation for what your marriage could represent. I have a poem I wrote a few years ago for my partner that I want to read him, and we have our individualized vows in progress. They have aspects of traditional vows, definitely.

We are keeping traditional vows as our priest and rabbi don't allow us to write our own vows but they will help us personalize them

Both. we're writing our own vows because they're so personal and I love that, but then at the end of each of ours we're adding the typical ones as part of it.

Cancel. We are writing our own vows. I like that it adds a personal touch to the ceremony.

Cancel. We’re writing our own ceremony, having a close family friend(who’s basically a 2nd dad to me) perform the ceremony & writing our own vows.

Cancel. We wrote our own vows, even though my fiance didn't want to. I told him he could do traditional if he wanted to, but he didn't want it to look like I cared more than him. 🤣

Kept. It was important to my husband so we stuck with them!

Keep. We did the original vows in the simplest form.

Cancel. When writing them I do plan to keep a little tradition and incld. Some of the traditional but I will be doing my own vows.

Keep it. We stayed traditional and saved the personalized stuff for our reception speech.

Cancel I think. We'd like something more personal.

Mostly keep. We'll probably modernize some of them, but most of them will be the same

Keep! but without the outdated parts

We both will be writing our own vows. He has been very hush hush about what he is going to say, but I know I may keep some traditional vows but mostly make it more meaningful to the two of us.

Some Keep and some Cancel. We aren't religious, so it's going to be altered a bit from the super traditional ones, but traditional vows are going to be the framework. There are a couple that do this in a book I picked up (A Practical Wedding: Planner) that are like this....we might use those.

We are writing our own vows for our first look, but we are going with somewhat more traditional vows during our ceremony.

Cancel.
We went with canned vows (didn't write our own) that we personalized a bit to make them more "our own".

Cancel, we'll each be writing our own vows.

Keep we decided to not write our own and just stick with the church vows. I am so glad because I wouldn't have been able to keep myself together ahhah

Keeping parts and cancelling others. Our officiant worked with us to come up with more modern vows.

Cancel, pretty sure we're writing our own vows

Sort of both. Keeping SOME traditional vows and exchanging for our own here and there. There are a few I can't abide by, and want it to reflect a more modern relationship.

We were going to do traditional vows as I've felt that they covered what a marriage was pretty succinctly. Then we found these slightly modernized vows and went with them. They are very similar to the traditional vows, but felt slightly more personal:
"I believe in you/the person you will grow to be/and the couple we will be together. With my whole heart/I take you as my husband/acknowledging and accepting/your faults and strengths/as you do mine. I promise to be faithful and supportive/and to always make our family’s love/and happiness my priority. I will be yours in plenty/and in want/in sickness and in health/in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you/celebrate with you/and walk beside you/through whatever our lives may bring. You are my one/my love and my life/today and always."

Cancel- We are doing more modern vows and adding our own personal spin to them

Cancel - we wrote our own modernized vows.

Cancel - the Catholic Church doesn’t allow couples to write their own vows.

Cancel - we aren't doing vows at the alter. Just want to get married and straight to the reception! We plan on writing cards to each other to read while we get ready though

I think cancel. Will go for something more personal.