To cake or not to cake?

Our buffet comes with desserts so we were thinking of skipping the cake, but one of my friends is a cheese maker and she asked if she could make us a baked cheese cake with Okanagan fruit for our wedding. Since my FH and I are both dairy farmers and I am a cheese maker as well, I am making a type of cream cheese with the milk from our cows and my friend is renting the kitchen from a local pie company to make and bake the cake.

We are just doing a small cake and a few cupcakes ( the cupcake are gluten free and offer an option to those who need it. I think certain elements are only as important as you make them out to be.

View quoted message We're having 135ish people, and we ordered 12 pies. We have lots of other desserts so we figured that would be enough

We are having a small cake to cut and then cup cakes for the guest as dessert.

Cake-Less! Our buffet also comes with assorted desserts included. The cost of the cake and the cake cutting fee were not worth it to us so we are going cake-less. Instead of the cake ceremony/photo op we are using the "Polish Salt and Bread" traditional ceremony in its place to symbolize the switch from dinner to party. I did hear a wedding planner once not recommend pies because once they get cut into they don't look very pretty...I would have to agree that they don't have the same visual appeal as cake.

We are just doing a 8" cake for us to cut and cake pops for the guests. It was way too expensive for my budget as well. We also are having donuts as well.

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We're doing a pie bar also...so much better than cake and we are getting married in BC's fruit basket so it makes sense. I am getting a topper made that is short enough to stick in it, display it nicely and our baker will do some beautiful design with the pasty for our showcase pie. I think the guests will be very pleased!

We were told a 9" will get 6 small or 5 large slices. I expect there will be seconds eaten by the boys for sure. We aren't doing any other dessert/candy table and feel this will be enough. Hope this helps!

We decided on a super small cake, essentially for decor and to give the venue a weddingy feel. hah. We are having a very small wedding so I wanted a wedding cake. It is only single 6" tier, but has 3 layers, so it'll be taller. We paid $80 for it, which includes some pretty gold detailing.

I’m only doing a cake because I do them myself haha! I went to school for baking so decided I would do my own. I even opted for the cheaper option of having a 4” cake for me and my fiancé to cut and then the rest are all going to be cupcakes. And since it’s coming out of my pocket and I do it for a living it’s only costing me like $300. Otherwise I wouldn’t be having a cake. People are getting stupid with prices of everything now a days. I’m so glad I have friends that are willing to help me out. My old boss is catering my wedding for the dinner and my other old coworker is DJing for me.
My advice. Find as many friend as possible willing to help you out. All my friend wants for DJing is for me to pay for his drinks. And my old boss just wants the same minus the cost of the food of course.

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We're thinking of doing pies instead of cakes as well. How many people are you having at your wedding? I'm trying to get a rough estimate of how many we would need.

We decided from the beginning that we wouldn't do wedding cake and would instead choose some other dessert or snack since we see the cake as a really expensive photo op.
I don't think it would be missed at all! Most people don't even eat any of it at a wedding.

We just got a 6 inch to cut and then bought dessert bars, chocolate covered strawberries and cookies. The cake wasn’t a priority in our budget

I TOTALLY get this! We weren't going to do a cake at first, but then my fiancé really wanted one, so we're doing something similar! Our top tier will be edible, and the second tier will be a "dummy" cake.

I agree with Bianca, I don't think anyone will miss it if you decide not to do it! As you said, guests are already getting dessert anyways!

When we first started wedding planning I was 100% against having a wedding cake, now, I'm considering it only if I can find one cheap enough that suits my needs.

Honestly, I think cakes are overdone and won't be missed. I can't recall the cake from a single wedding I've attended tbh.

It's totally up to you! As you said, your guests will already have dessert after dinner as per your wedding package, and you'll also have a late-night sweet station so I'd understand if you decide to skip the cake.

You could also opt for a one-tier cake instead, and have your baker do individual slices as that should drop the price significantly, but still enable you to have a cake for pictures/cutting purposes.

Alternatives is a way to go if not cake. As many people may not enjoy cake now a days, its always good to choose simpler choices to go for dessert.

I had chosen to go two ways. One being the cake which my husband was onboard for 3 tiers enough for the family and assorted mini pastries for others. 72 guests worked out perfectly and no wastage. The main thing is that my husband was happy with everything.

View quoted message Love this idea!!

We’re getting this, three tier, delivery and all for 170$, which I find it super reasonable

I’m a cake girl

If you dont want a cake, biff it, enough said

We didn’t do a cake and no regrets! I can’t eat cake and hubby doesn’t really like cake, so it really would’ve been for a picture only. And, we already had lots of pictures of us from earlier in the day. Plus, it worked out because my hubby had had enough of poses photos by that time.

Just to clarify we were never going to do enough cake to feed the guests, they have a plated dessert and late night snack so we decided theyd be okay without it a while back. What were trying to decide is if we go without any cake at all for cutting will we regret it?

My husband and I aren’t huge sweets fans, so we got a small 6” cake and had 120 cupcakes for the guests. All in all it ended up costing us 230$!

We are doing pies instead of cake It's a personal preference AND a much cheaper option. You can get 15 pies for $220 (at $15/pie), if you do one pie per table-ish, whereas a cake that feeds the same number of people would cost $400-$1000 depending on how much decoration you get!

We opted to get a small single tier for us to cut and then have cupcakes for our guests!
Our late night buffet will have cookies as well

We will not be doing cake. we will have a nice plated dessert with dinner. We are debating doing a dessert table but with like cookies, pies etc.

My best friend had cupcakes which was a cheaper option and super cute.

We aren’t having a cake but a donut cake. We will have one tier of cake to cut into but the 5 other tiers will be Krispy Irene donuts lol

If it's not something you're super excited about, I'd cut the expense and not do a cake. I can't even tell you how many weddings I have been to where they totally forgot to do the cake cutting, so this beautiful $300-400 cake ended up going to waste because it was forgotten about.

If you don't do one, I can guarantee that pretty much no one will even notice, and if anyone does, it'll be a mere moment of curiosity and nothing more.

We aren't doing a full cake. forget that. I don't want to spend the money when my venue includes dessert. we are getting a small round (probably a 6inch) cake for photos/cutting. and a local baker will do it for under $50. good enough for me!
Although. I love cake. so I will probably snack on it later in the night. haha

We are getting a very small 2 tier cake. It will be up on a pedestal, surrounded by mini-cupcakes. When I say small, I mean a 4" and 6" tiered cake. The 4" layer will be the perfect size to save for our 1 year anniversary, and the 6" layer is for the cake cutting ceremony (which I wanted to have).

Our baker is doing the mini-cupcakes at $1 each, and the cake will be $40.

If you're okay with getting the "decor stuff" (faux flowers, cake topper... whatever) yourself, you could go and order a 2 tier "anniversary", "birthday" or whatever cake from a bakery. Plain white buttercream frosting.... You may be finding that the expensive cakes are the price they are due to saying it's for a wedding.

If you don't need something fancy, I suggest going with the plain, small, practical option.

I was going for no cake, but my aunt was a tad too excited and bought a gorgeous mother of pearl cake cutter, so we're doing cake hahaha, it might seem like a weird decision maker, but both my parents have passed away, and I understand my aunt's need to make me feel like I'm not missing out... we're still probably doing a smallish cake and supplement it with cupcakes.

We are having cake and cupcakes, but my sister is baking it for us. We don't want anything fancy, and she has basic skills with fondant and decorating. Our cost will be under 100$, because we also couldn't justify paying the cost bakeries wanted.

Do you know anyone who might be able/willing to bake one for you?

We had a cake, went with a 2 tier cake and still was pricey. We also had dessert with dinner and dessert table at night. To be honest no one remembers our cake (witht the exception of me, not even hubby rememebrs what it looked like lol). And I don't remember any of my friends cakes unless I look back at pictures. Lookig back not sure cake was needed at all, and we could have saved the money to spend during our honeymoon.