Newbie August 2020 British Columbia

Spring Wedding

Greer, on 12/June/2019 at 15:40 Posted in Plan a wedding

We are thinking about having our wedding on a Sunday on the long weekend in May next year. We were going to do it on a long weekend to help out of town guests, especially. However we decided to go with a April date because the venue is cheaper and our budget is extremely tight. My question is, if the wedding is on a Sunday and there isn't a holiday Monday following - do you think this will annoy our guests? I would love to have a Saturday wedding but we just can't afford it and I want a Sunday later in April so our chances increase of having warm sunny weather. Any feedback?



  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·

    I don't know if it will annoy your guests, but I definitely think people will be leaving earlier than if it were on a day when the next one was a holiday.

  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
    It may annoy people but I don’t think that’s a reason to not do it. My friend got married on a Sunday. Most people were gone by 11pm. No one didn’t come because it was on a Sunday. For people who have weekends off, they don’t have to take time off work. For people who work weekends, they still have to arrange time off whether the wedding is Saturday or Sunday. For out of town guests, they would have to take days off work anyway to travel.
    Sunday may not be the norm, but if it works better for you and your fiancé, do it!
  • Candace
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Candace ·

    You could always try to do the ceremony just a little earlier so that if people don't want to book the Monday off they can stay for most of reception and still have plenty of time to get home. The people who want to come and celebrate with you will make it work, and if it isn't in your budget to do a Saturday wedding I'm sure they will understand.

  • Heather
    Curious September 2020 Manitoba
    Heather ·
    If a close friend or family member was getting married on a Sunday I would book the Monday off from work. I know not everyone can do this. But some will. Some will complain but that’s standard for any wedding. We are doing a Sunday of the sept long weekend next year. No one has complained yet but I expect some feedback from people with cabins or that tend to go away on the long weekends. But if they really wanted to be there with us they would find a way. Just like I would if I a friend or family member was getting married. We are giving everyone 3 months notice with our invites. So if they aren’t there it was their choice.
  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·

    Good for you for not starting your marriage with wedding debt!!

    I feel like a brunch Sunday wedding would go over better than a traditional evening reception as that sounds more "stay late and party" type of wedding. Your out of town guests can still travel Sunday afternoon and not have to be up late with Monday right around the corner. I feel like brunch weddings are becoming more popular, but you could still get people who complain how it's not like a "traditional" wedding.

    Even if you do an evening wedding on Sunday, some people will probably try and take the Monday off work so they can attend - some will still complain but honestly, the wedding is about what you 2 want as a couple!

  • Hélène
    Devoted September 2019 Alberta
    Hélène ·

    I would agree with the brunch suggestions. That way people who are from out of town still have time to travel post-reception, if they wish.

    My first wedding we did an early afternoon 'finger foods' lunch. It was fantastic. No one felt like they had to stay late, we saved a TON on the minimal alcohol consumption, and those from out of town could relax and visit in the evening without the pressure and structure of a wedding reception.

    This time around we're having our wedding on a Sunday evening but 99.9% of our guests are from out of town and would be taking time off to come to the wedding anyways because of the distance. (They weren't going to fly for four hours each way just to spend two days visiting.) We gave them plenty of notice so that they could coordinate time off etc.

    All that being said, do what feels right for you. Brunch, lunch, pop-up wedding, cocktails and finger foods only, food truck reception...the choices are endless. If there are things you really want to include, start there and build your budget and day around those.

  • Kelsie
    Featured July 2020 Ontario
    Kelsie ·
    I say do what you want because it is about you and your partner, not everyone else.

    some people will always complain whether it’s a Friday, Saturday or Sunday.

    I would attend a Sunday wedding, I just wouldn’t stay late with work the next day. So I really like the idea of a brunch as others have said!
  • Monique
    Devoted August 2020 Saskatchewan
    Monique ·
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    That's how I've been feeling trying to find a venue as well! We want to celebrate with our family and friends, but we don't want to go bankrupt at the same time haha

  • Erin
    Super May 2020 Ontario
    Erin ·
    Good for you for sticking to your budget and not going overboard to impress other people. I think i would agree about having a brunch wedding on a Sunday, unless you really want some elements that are more geared towards an evening reception. The people who matter most will be there for you no matter what day you chose to get married on.
  • Greer
    Newbie August 2020 British Columbia
    Greer ·
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    The venue we choose is almost as expensive on Friday as it is on Saturday. Fridays require people to take a day off too so it felt like a loose-loose scenario.

  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
    Ever think about a Friday wedding? Then you get 2 days to recover! We did a Friday wedding and saved THOUSANDS from discounts on vendors! Best choice we made and no one complained!
  • Janaya
    Featured August 2019 Saskatchewan
    Janaya ·

    You could do a brunch wedding! OR another thing that my FH and I looked into (depending on your guest count) you could rent a house, have the ceremony in the yard, and a bbq / restaurant dinner!

    What we originally wanted to do was rent this huge airbnb in our city , have the ceremony in the back yard, and then rent a tent and have the tables chairs, and dance floor under it.

    the whole thing would have only cost like, $5,000 and then if you have extra money you can add extra things like more flowers, or a DJ or anything you want.

    the food is usually the most expensive thing from what i've seen

  • Brittany
    Devoted August 2019 Alberta
    Brittany ·

    I agree with Allison's comment regarding brunch/lunch.

    I think having a traditional dinner reception on a sunday will make it hard for out of town guests, anyone with children, and those that work early. But if you do a brunch type deal they can still travel afterwards if needed.

  • Allison
    Frequent user June 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·

    I agree with Lisa, someone will always find something to complain about so do whats best for you and your partner Smiley heart I think you could take a look at how far the majority of your guests have to travel and take that into consideration. For example most of our guests will be driving 4 hours ish. Also you are far enough ahead that if you send out save the dates, those who really want to be there will take the day off on the Monday if they can or they may at least attend the ceremony.

    Another thought to consider if you are straying from tradition, is to having a morning wedding and brunch - its honestly a probably a heck of a lot cheaper to arrange and who doesn't love breakfast foods?! There are lots of non-traditional ideas out there and I am sure some guests would love something new to experience too (: So many ideas!

    Basically, do what you like and remember that its your day, the most important people will make the arrangements to be there for you and your partner.

  • Greer
    Newbie August 2020 British Columbia
    Greer ·

    This is so disappointing already. We have been finding that rates are exorbitant for Saturdays - inside or outside of high season. Our budget is only $10,000 and I can't spend 60% or more of that on my venue. What's a bride to do???? It like wedding are only for rich people or people willing to go into debt for it these days. We fit into neither category.

  • Lisa
    Featured August 2019 Alberta
    Lisa ·

    I think there may always be a few complaints, especially for out of town guests, but it's most important to do what's best for the two of you. It's not the norm, but that's more and more accepted these days!

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