I'm recently engaged (woot woot!) and new to the wedding wire community (BIG woot woot) and my fiance and I have already run into our first dilemma, so I thought I'd come on here and ask for some opinions and thoughts (since we're generally in the same boat).
My sweet and romantic fiance and I have decided to have our wedding next year, the day AFTER my inlaws' 50th wedding anniversary. I know what you're probably thinking, why share an anniversary with my inlaws? I honestly don't mind so much, and hey! If we shadow their anniversary, maybe some of that good joo joo will rub off on us! I mean, 50 years? That deserves an award!
Anyways, my mom brought up the other day, that the day before the wedding there usually is a big rehearsal dinner. Now, I don't know if its because my mom is filipino, but it sounds like its supposed to be this big event to mingle, stuff your face, etc.
Because its the inlaws anniversary, we were planning on having a dinner, but it'll be a small event, as per request of the mother-in-law, so my extended family won't even be invited.
So I'm having some mixed feelings here. I know I'll be having some friends and family traveling in for the weekend, so I definitely want to see them and mingle the day before the wedding, but is this like another meal that we have to budget for? Are big rehearsal dinners a normal thing? Should I be allocating a lot of our time into this event? Or is there anyway I could possibly do both? A small 50th anniversary dinner with the inlaws AND a big rehearsal dinner? Because my mom definitely doesn't think we can. Help!?