I have two dilemmas. I am having a 50 person or so wedding in October. The groom and I decided to each invite around 25 people. Not an issue for the groom as he has a small family. I on the other hand have a huge family.
I could use up my 25 people with just my aunts, uncles and cousins on my moms side. That would not include my cousins kids who range in age from 1 year old to 13 years old. There are 7 of them in total. My first dilemma is this - is it rude if I make this an adults only event? Having 7 more people will inflate my numbers and I’m on a tight budget.
The other issue is I am not close to my dad’s side of the family at all. We barely see each other and when I am required to see them at things like weddings every few years I dread the day. They made my childhood very difficult and would often make comments about my weight. This continued into adulthood with comments about my studies, weight and lack of a boyfriend. I decided since I’m not close to them and that I only have 25 people to invite I would not include them.
I told my parents this and my dad freaked out and told me I had to at least invite my grandparents and aunts and uncles. That would be another 12 people which would again inflate my list. My dad is apparently hurt by me not inviting them but honestly having them there would stress me out because they are so judgemental and again they make me feel crappy with back handed comments. My dad isn’t even that close to them but feels people will talk if no one from his side is there.
I could understand if my parents were financially helping with the wedding if they wanted to choose part of my guest list but they are not. Me and my FH are paying for the entire wedding ourselves and have a very tight budget.
Any advice? I don’t want to cause drama or upset my dad but I really don’t want them there.
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