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Reception Speeches? Keep or Cancel?

Lynnie, on 16/September/2019 at 09:50 Posted in Wedding reception

Reception toasts from your father, maid of honor, and best man can be incredibly moving and bring everyone to happy tears! 馃槶 That is, when the speeches are done well! On the other hand, they can also be awkward, embarrassing, and totally cringe-worthy when done poorly.

What's your vote? Should we put everyone out of their misery and cancel reception speeches? Or keep this personal and emotional toast tradition?

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  • Racheal Blair
    Frequent user November 2021 Ontario
    Racheal Blair

    Keep. I want everyone to have an opportunity to share in the love and emotions on our big day. After all, it is about our families as much as us.

  • Nelly
    Devoted October 2020 Ontario

    Keep I know that our parents and grandparents would like to do a speech

  • M
    Beginner August 2020 Quebec

    Keep. I know the people we're asking won't drag on and on, so I'm not giving a time restriction. Speeches are always my favourite part of a wedding

  • Christine
    Frequent user October 2019 Ontario

    Keep... but everyone gets 5 minutes Smiley smile At least I hope they keep it short and sweet.

  • Erin
    Super September 2019 Ontario
    We kept this...but I made sure that EVERYONE who is speaking knows to keep it short and sweet. We have also split the speeches up throughout the night a bit so they're not all at once...
  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    We kept them
  • Rebecca
    Devoted November 2019 Quebec
    Keep. But barely. Grooms dad will do the toast and then MOH and BM get a 3 min MAX speech. I will shut it down if they take to long lol
  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario

    Keep. We only had a few people speaking, so it was tasteful.

  • Amelia
    Featured September 2020 Ontario

    Keeping these. I think our speech-givers are pretty low risk of botching it and we'll have them keep them short.

  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia

    We're keeping, but we're also keeping them limited so it's not a free for all

  • Chelsea
    Featured June 2020 Alberta
    Keep! speeches are my favourite part of weddings!
  • Maddie19
    Beginner July 2020 Alberta

    We're only doing a best man, maid of honour, and father of the bride speech! 2 minutes max haha.

  • Amanda
    Frequent user October 2020 Alberta

    My FH and I will be doing the only speech that night. We would like to keep things short and simple and enjoy the party before we turn into pumpkins! 馃槅 The rehearsal dinner the night before my father will welcome my fianc茅 and his family into our family etc and if the MOH and BM want to tell a tale or two then at least it won鈥檛 be to the whole wedding.

  • BunnyBride
    Expert August 2020 Nova Scotia

    Like what seems to be the majority here, Keep but on a smaller scale. This could change, but we are figuring the planned speeches will be minimal. We are thinking about opening the mic up for people afterwards, so, if someone really wants to say something, they can. I'm definitely going to ask the MC to announce to keep the stories family friendly as there are going to be a lot of kids there...Also a way to keep the cringey topics at bay! :-P

  • Seleena
    Super September 2019 British Columbia

    I wanted to cancel because speeches are SO long and boring, especially for guests. But, my sister wanted to do one, so I guess we'll see how that goes.

  • Meaghan
    Devoted September 2019 Ontario
    Cancel. Our group was so small it would have been weird to have speeches and I don't like speeches anyway. We had a couple toasts during dinner and that was it.

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