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WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina

Reception Speeches? Keep or Cancel?

Lynnie, on September 16, 2019 at 09:50 Posted in Wedding reception 0 31
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Reception toasts from your father, maid of honor, and best man can be incredibly moving and bring everyone to happy tears! 馃槶 That is, when the speeches are done well! On the other hand, they can also be awkward, embarrassing, and totally cringe-worthy when done poorly.

What's your vote? Should we put everyone out of their misery and cancel reception speeches? Or keep this personal and emotional toast tradition?


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31 Comments

  • R
    Newbie August 2020 Alberta
    Renee
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    I鈥檓 still debating this but definitely leaning towards tossing the idea out! If my MIL or MOH want to do a speech I think They could write it in a letter and give it to us to read together. Whatever heartfelt things they have to say don鈥檛 need to be said in front of everyone. If you鈥檙e happy for us, tell us. You don鈥檛 need to express it to 250+ people.
    Not bashing people that love speeches or want them at their wedding, just not for me. Coming from the bride who doesn鈥檛 want to be the centre of attention for any amount of time.
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  • Amelia
    Featured October 2020 New Brunswick
    Amelia
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    I think keep. But we're not sure when to fit them in.
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  • Racheal Blair
    Frequent user November 2021 Ontario
    Racheal Blair
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    Keep. I want everyone to have an opportunity to share in the love and emotions on our big day. After all, it is about our families as much as us.

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  • Nelly
    Devoted October 2020 Ontario
    Nelly
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    Keep I know that our parents and grandparents would like to do a speech

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  • Meghan
    Beginner May 2021 Quebec
    Meghan
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    Keep. I know the people we're asking won't drag on and on, so I'm not giving a time restriction. Speeches are always my favourite part of a wedding

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  • Christine
    Frequent user October 2019 Ontario
    Christine
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    Keep... but everyone gets 5 minutes Smiley smile At least I hope they keep it short and sweet.

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  • Erin
    Super September 2019 Ontario
    Erin
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    We kept this...but I made sure that EVERYONE who is speaking knows to keep it short and sweet. We have also split the speeches up throughout the night a bit so they're not all at once...
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie
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    We kept them
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  • Rebecca
    Devoted November 2019 Quebec
    Rebecca
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    Keep. But barely. Grooms dad will do the toast and then MOH and BM get a 3 min MAX speech. I will shut it down if they take to long lol
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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca
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    Keep. We only had a few people speaking, so it was tasteful.

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  • Amelia
    Super September 2020 Ontario
    Amelia
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    Keeping these. I think our speech-givers are pretty low risk of botching it and we'll have them keep them short.

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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
    Alexandra
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    We're keeping, but we're also keeping them limited so it's not a free for all

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  • Chelsea
    Featured October 2020 Alberta
    Chelsea
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    Keep! speeches are my favourite part of weddings!
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  • Maddie19
    Curious July 2020 Alberta
    Maddie19
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    We're only doing a best man, maid of honour, and father of the bride speech! 2 minutes max haha.

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  • Amanda
    Devoted September 2022 Alberta
    Amanda
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    My FH and I will be doing the only speech that night. We would like to keep things short and simple and enjoy the party before we turn into pumpkins! 馃槅 The rehearsal dinner the night before my father will welcome my fianc茅 and his family into our family etc and if the MOH and BM want to tell a tale or two then at least it won鈥檛 be to the whole wedding.

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  • BunnyBride
    Super August 2021 Nova Scotia
    BunnyBride
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    Like what seems to be the majority here, Keep but on a smaller scale. This could change, but we are figuring the planned speeches will be minimal. We are thinking about opening the mic up for people afterwards, so, if someone really wants to say something, they can. I'm definitely going to ask the MC to announce to keep the stories family friendly as there are going to be a lot of kids there...Also a way to keep the cringey topics at bay! :-P

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