Alana
Curious August 2021 Ontario

Planning with a longer engagement

Alana, on February 11, 2020 at 15:58 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 21
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Hi everyone! We are getting married on Aug. 1, 2021. And we will have been engaged for two years by the time we are married. Not a super long engagement but I still feels to early to start. We’ve booked our venue and our photographer but it feels too early for anything else. Brides who were or are in a similar situation, how did you find balance in your planning and still maintain excitement for your big day?

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  • Sarah
    Devoted August 2020 British Columbia
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    I have been engaged for something like 7 years lol we decided 2 years ago to finally get hitched.I found that I would be crazy into planning and would lose steam and give up for a bit.Highly recommend that you set yourself up with some kind of timeline and tackle small projects as you go.Planning my wedding early has saved me thousands of dollars because I have been able to buy stuff second hand or just find it on sale.
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  • Desiree
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
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    Congratulations 🥰 we have the same wedding month and year. We’ve been engaged since Jan 2019 and just started to dive right into wedding planning we have the venue, DJ ,photographer and just booked the officiant. I think booking earlier you might be able to come across some decent deals
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  • A
    Newbie August 2021 Manitoba
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    Hi Alana,


    First off, Congratulations fellow bride! We just got engaged December 25th/19. Our wedding date is set for August 14,2021..we have our venue and photographer pretty much booked as well. I feel as though each new corner is turned----I'm not feeling pressure. We still have: engagement pictures, and colours to choose, bridesmaid/groomsman packages being made up. I'm enjoying the little things right now! I feel as though I can make the right choices, save some money and just relax...instead of just getting this, or booking that. After 19 years together...we are enjoying our engagement. ❤️❤️❤️
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  • Jessica
    Beginner September 2021 Ontario
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    We've been engaged since Feb 14th 2019. We had no plans of a wedding within the 1st year. We've been together for 5 years and living together for almost 5.5.
    We started to plan and look at venues and find this a lot less stressful. Really is just $ holding us back right now
    Imagine having the day pretty much planned out then just putting all the prices together when you're ready. We plan on having our big day later next year.
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  • Elliott
    Newbie June 2021 Ontario
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    Hi! I'm in a similar situation- my partner and I are actually already legally married (it made sense for our situation and helped us move to another country together!) but we are planning a wedding because we got married in a simple courthouse ceremony with two witnesses and I want to celebrate with my people.

    All of the info about how everyone has been planning is super helpful!


    I was wondering what y'all think about when to start sending save the dates. I live in Canada and the majority of my friends/family live in the States. I was thinking of sending my Save the Dates in July or August 2020 (our wedding is June 2021) but I'm not sure if that's too early. I'm just so excited about all the planning and want to let people know asap haha.

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  • Alana
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
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    Thank you!! We started planning our honeymoon which has helped!
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  • Alana
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
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    Thank you! Isn’t it crazy how quickly you can pin and unpin something on Pinterest lol! Congratulations on your little one! So much excitement in your life right now!
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  • Alana
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
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    Thank you so much! That really helps me map everything out timing wise!!
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  • Amanda
    Frequent user September 2020 Ontario
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    Honestly start planning and booking. You will get better prices and first hand of dates.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Our engagement was 2 years as well so I can definitely tell you my experience.


    Wedding planning definitely comes and goes in terms of excitement/things to do. By month 3 into our engagement we had venue and photographer, like you, and didn't book anything else until May, which was 7 months into the engagement. It's totally fine for you to kick back and relax a little in the early stages. During times where I felt it was "too early" to book the next thing, I just researched on Pinterest (i.e. dresses, DIY projects) and spent time on the wedding wire community.


    Some advice I could give you, is to have the majority of your vendors booked by a year's mark. We had everything except cake and flowers booked by our year mark, so was definitely less stress to find vendors with under a year to go. Also, some vendors will honour 2020 prices if you book in 2020, even if your wedding is in 2021. So by booking early, you can save money. Also, if you are planning on doing any DIY's (decor, etc.) research styles you like and attempt projects early. Trust me, you don't want to be painting rocks while chasing down RSVPs and attempting a seating chart (true story) lol.


    I'd also recommend checking out bridal shows/expos in your area. I found that they are fun and more useful if you are just starting out with planning vs. just trying to find your last 1 or 2 vendors. Many vendors also give out discounts at bridal show and it's a great way to meet a variety of vendors since you meet face-to-face.

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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    Congrats!

    The start of the wedding process seems to be a good one for you since you have booked the venue itself. It would be good to get the whole vendor team ready now that the photographer is done and paid down for now. The small ticket items can wait as well as décor since you will have that much time to go out and get them beginning of 2021. Florist get booked fast if your need of one for the day.

    I had all the biggest expenses out of the way and booked so the good vendors I knew I wanted were given their deposits. It was a good feeling to not look around anymore.

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  • Katya
    Newbie July 2021 Saskatchewan
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    Hi Alana,

    We are also waiting 2 years between engagement and wedding, however, our situation is slightly different as we are having a baby within that time. I've booked venue, photographer, food, transport for the bridal party, hair/makeup, and audio/DJ services already (with 1.5 years to go). I think the biggest thing is to keep doing research and keep having discussions about what you want/envision for your day. Enlist your bridal party (if you've picked them) in helping to book/plan or even brainstorm ideas once in a while. Check out local bridal shops and shows periodically to keep your mind in it. Definitely use Pinterest to pin/delete/pin the things you love because those might change and luckily most of the small stuff can be decided upon/bought closer to the day. Happy Engagement!

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  • Gloria
    Frequent user August 2020 Ontario
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    So we did the same thing... our engagement was just over 2 years. We booked the big things first... venue photographer videographer DJ flowers decor and limo. I’d you’re pretty set on specific vendors it’s not too early to book! We took our time other than that and now we’re at the 6 month mark. While it feels like there’s plenty of time there is and isn’t. Depending on your invites and where you get them what kind you want I would also suggest getting started on that. Make sure you take care of your dress and the choose bridesmaids if you have any... once you choose bridesmaids dress depending on where you choose from give it a bit of time to see if it goes on sale. My girls saved around $60 buying the dress on sale.
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  • Amelia
    Featured October 2020 New Brunswick
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    I think it's really smart to wait. When we got engaged I went through a wedding themed Pinterest board I had and half of the stuff I didn't like anymore and the rest was really over done. Your taste and wedding trends can change so much, and if it doesn't you can score some great deals on second hand wedding decor!
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  • Hayley
    Curious May 2020 British Columbia
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    It comes in waves for sure but it means when you take a break and come back to it you're excited all over again! Plus less stressful getting the big things out of the way. Less to worry about so that you can enjoy being engaged. I found exploring different destinations for honeymoons and doing DIY wedding projects has kept the excitement going

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  • Veronica
    Featured October 2020 Alberta
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    We had a long engagement as well, about 20 months. I found it comes and goes in waves! The first few months I was non stop wedding all the time - I got so much booked and sorted out. Then I took a break during the summer/early fall. Now that we are 8 months out, I am in a full swing of excitement. It's never to early to take care of to do list items, space out your payments for things, etc. Doing things like engagement photos or having an engagement party can help in between.

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