Picking your Bridal Party

The girl you dont hang out with much. do you think you will see her more as your wedding comes up? if youre gonna see her less and have been drifting apart i wouldnt put her. but if you think you will still be hanging out when your wedding approaches put her in. the friend getting married the same year as you willl be too busy and stressed with her own wedding.

I agree with the others who are saying to hold off for right now. You still have ~2 years, a lot can change. I revamped my guest list 4 times in that span of time!

As for who to ask, wait until around a year before and really evaluate who your really good friends are and pick them. It doesn't have to be even and the guys could start up at the front already with your fiancé (I'm sure worst case, your fiancé can compromise with it).

As for your friends' obligations, I'd suggest not making the decision for them. They are the best judges of how much they can handle. Feel free to ask them but state that there's no pressure to accept, or feel free to accept a smaller role. That way, they can potentially participate and give you even numbers.

Don't stress yet!!! I wouldn't even ask until like 15 months before the wedding or even 12 months before the wedding!!

Friends can change, but so can financials!

Also, you can ask whoever you want (as long as your FH likes them.. can't say that he should have a say - but generally your FH should get along with all your friends). Don't let your friends wedding get in the way of asking her though, she has the ability to decline your "will you be my bm?" question.

Honestly, I wouldn’t ask anyone yet anyway. Don’t ask your wedding party until you’re roughly a year out. A lot can change in a year and weddings bring out the worst in some people. It’s best to wait and know for sure. Don’t ask someone you’re not sure about!

The one point I want to touch on is the friend with the same wedding year. Don’t stress about that! It’s not like you can’t ask her and if she feels like she can’t she can always say no. My MoH is getting married 2 months after I had my wedding and I am also her MoH and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Choose people who you want in your life years from now and know will be there for you throughout your marriage. Also listen to your gut feeling and you’ll be good!

View quoted message I completely agree this is your day and whoever you honestly feel is going to help you get through the day is who needs to be there, stuck to your guns

View quoted message I think this is so special it is great to have family involved and honestly nobody is closer than family!

At the end of the day, you have to do what makes you happy.
I honestly don’t have many close friends so for me picking family was easier. FH is way closer to his family than any friends. So our wedding party is our siblings. This way no one is left out and everyone will be a part of all the wedding events

Go with you gut! honestly things like having a matching wedding party are such small details in the end, i wouldn’t bother letting it become an issue. stick to your guns!