Is anyone else choosing not to have bridesmaids or groomsmen at their wedding? My fiance and I are having a smallish wedding so we're only inviting close friends and family (the family members we like lol). Neither of us have super large friend groups to begin with. I don't have a tonne of friends, just a small group of fairly close girlfriends. So either all my friends are bridesmaids or they're all guests. We want to cut out as much complication as possible from our wedding planning and my fiance and I both felt stressed about the idea of having to pick wedding party members from our friend groups. I'd still like to invite them all to do photos with us, but without the strings/responsibilities of being in the wedding party, and they can wear whatever they want. And I'll still like to have a pre-wedding girls day with them.
No wedding party for us either! We're having about 85 people, and honestly, we just want to have a low-key party. My friends are all more than willing to help plan a bachelorette party and have all offered to help set up the day of the wedding. They're actually thrilled not to have to spend all the money to be bridesmaids.
Both my other half and I have multiple, extremely close friends. Because of this, we feel very uncomfortable in having to select a "best man/maid of honour". Our closest friends also live all over the country and do not necessarily have money to be here for the wedding...we don't want to put anyone on the spot. So, we've pretty much decided that we aren't going to have anyone stand with us. We just can't make those decisions without hurting someone.
We are not doing a bridal party either! Mainly because we are only inviting 35 people that are extremely close family and friends and we can not choose specific people to be apart of the wedding party! So we chose our monther's to sign the witness papers
You definitely don't need to have a wedding party, especially if it will cause unnecessary drama. I'm actually "in" a wedding in August - bride isn't having a wedding party, but there's a few of us who are getting ready with and doing photos with her while not being bridesmaids. It's such an honour to even be considered like this, even though there's no official title and I'm sure your friends would feel the same!
We are having a MOH and BM. Mostly because we need witnesses. That being said they can pick there own clothes in any of the wedding colours. They don't have any responsibilities other than standing beside us, going for pictures and signing on the day. We are forgoing the stag and doe and all the other parties. I was thinking of doing a wine tour for a bachelorette party, whiever wants to comes can. FH will probably do something with his friends before the big day as well. I'm lucky that I have a lot of support from people even if we are not having a big bridal party. Having a small or no wedding party really saves on drama.
We aren't having a wedding party! Like you were having a small wedding and it didn't make sense to have like 20% of the guest list standing next to us, and chosing a few would have been too hard. My girlfriends were all really understanding. I brought them dress shopping, a few of them are planning on coming to a bridal accessories sale with me, and we will definitely have a bachelorette party. We do have to pick witnesses and in my mind those two people will be as close to a wedding party as we get.
FH and I opted to also have no wedding party. Our guest list is 60 people and we would have had to have 12 people in our party to keep everyone happy which we thought was ridiculous to have 20% of the guests as the wedding party. We're including our friends in other small ways, like having them as witnesses, holding the big jar for our sand ceremony, emcees for the reception, etc. We're also including them all in the photo shoot too. It just made things less complicated and they don't have to buy any expensive clothes that they'll probably never wear again and just less stress overall for the whole thing
Your day is what you make it and how it will be arranged. You feel bridesmaid/groomsmen are not needed, leave it. The day with the girls sounds great to enjoy the day before the wedding. One tip would be is creating a photo group shot list to make sure everyone is in the shot as arranged. This process works to avoid lines and families waiting to come up. It has been done for our wedding and my cousins to make sure families and wedding party did get their shot with us.