Cassie
Curious September 2020 Ontario

May 23 Wedding and covid

Cassie, on March 23, 2020 at 20:08 Posted in Before the wedding 0 34
Saved Save
Reply
I’m getting married May 23 of this year in Ontario. I have no idea if I need to postpone it because it’s far enough away that things may calm down by then but close enough to not really know. My shower is April 26 and my bachelorette is May 8 weekend. The problem is I don’t know if I want to sacrifice the full bride experience of missing all of those exciting parties leading up to the day even if the wedding does still happen. I’m so confused. Who else is on this day and what are you choosing to do? Or anyone near my date?

34 Comments

  • Cassie
    Curious September 2020 Ontario
    Cassie ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    I agree. I figured mid April is a good time to decide and it depends if we can even acquire a marriage license haha! Praying for us! Keep me updated
    • Reply
  • Shanabri
    Newbie May 2020 Ontario
    Shanabri ·
    • Dispute
    Our wedding is May 23rd in Chatham-kent, Ontario. I too am supposed to have a bridal shower April 25th.
    We do not have our marriage license yet but I've been in contact with the municipality who at the time promised to issue a license if I contact them 2 weeks prior to the date.
    I keep struggling if I should wait and pray that by May things will have calmed or do I fight to get a license now and elope and see what happens come May?It's a challenging time.....but I'm staying hopeful that we can have the wedding we planned!
    • Reply
  • Savannah
    Beginner August 2020 Ontario
    Savannah ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message

    Us too! We fortunately have our rings, him and his best man were able to pick up their suits from being altered, I can't get my dress yet from being altered because they stopped curbside pick-ups and I still need my last fitting Smiley sad . I know where we got our rings from (People's Jeweller's) is closed, although I am sure you can maybe still order from places online? It's definitely a waiting game for sure, I'll keep in contact and keep you in the loop! Here's hoping we can still have our special days! Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • Cassie
    Curious September 2020 Ontario
    Cassie ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    Yes! We were going to get the license the week this all started and now we’re screwed. So that’s one of the last things we needed to do as well. I got my ring but he needs to go in to the store and get his mid April but are they even going to be open? LOL. It’s a fun waiting game! Keep me in the loop Smiley smile
    • Reply
  • Savannah
    Beginner August 2020 Ontario
    Savannah ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message

    I'm in Ontario too! I am supposed to have a bridal shower the first week of May also, but definitely agree if things lighten up closer to having parties closer too could also be an option! The thing that's been the biggest stressor for me so far is the marriage license, that's literally the last thing we needed to get and the most important thing and now that all the offices are closed it's been a struggle trying to find out as much information as we can on if we can get one before the wedding Smiley sad . I'm just trying to stay optimistic and hope for the best, we deserve to have our special day!! Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • Cassie
    Curious September 2020 Ontario
    Cassie ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    Same here, girl! I really don’t want to sacrifice the bachelorette and bridal shower though so I have to see what really matters to me. If things are good early to mid May, I think I can still push the parties to the week before. It’s good to hear that your venue is positive about our date. Where abouts are you located? I’m ontario.


    • Reply
  • Savannah
    Beginner August 2020 Ontario
    Savannah ·
    • Dispute

    We're May 23rd also! So far we have been in contact with our vendors and gone over our contracts just in case we have to postpone, however our venue seems confident that we will still be able to proceed with the day we have chosen (fingers crossed we can!). During this hectic time we've just come to the conclusion to just remain positive and optimistic and hope for the best, and accept that this is something unfortunately out of our control. I've personally accepted that if I have to sacrifice missing out on showers or a bachelorette party because of it, but can still proceed with the wedding that it is what it is. I personally am not making any solid decisions until mid/end of April as this situation is ever changing and we never know what the situation will be at that time, we have discussed our plan B to make sure we are on board for the same thing but are hopeful we can proceed as planned!

    • Reply
  • Alexandria
    Curious August 2020 Ontario
    Alexandria ·
    • Dispute
    I am on August 1st but we live permanently in London UK. We are on lockdown and have been hearing that definitely for the next 12 weeks not to expect any changes.
    My flight to Canada is July 12th... I don’t know what will happen. We have been engaged for two years so it’s obviously very unsettling!
    • Reply
  • K
    Beginner May 2020 Alberta
    Kendell ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    The family drama is the exhuasting part for sure. It is so hard to make everyone happy. They all say it's your day but then have a million opinions.


    I dont think you should cancel outright. If it's the wedding you want you kight regret it. Hopefully your fiance and you can come to an agreement. How far are you waiting till you decide? Has your venue contacted you since the limits of gatherings went down?
    • Reply
  • Anah
    Beginner June 2021 Alberta
    Anah ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    I feel you with the family drama, there was so many things we had to do to make my future inlaws happy, you’d think it was their wedding.


    I know what you mean about money, none of our vendors will give us money back, however they all have been super helpful so far with offering rescheduling options so I guess I can’t complain there.
    I hope with the new restrictions of people make then become more flexible towards you, or at least return your money. You shouldn’t be able to treat people the way they are to you in a bloody global pandemic, this is not a cancellation/change we are all making by choice.
    • Reply
  • K
    Beginner May 2020 Alberta
    Kendell ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    So we are in a tough spot because our venue is really being a pain. They are refusing to give any money back and wanting to charge us more for any other weekend we choose. The only way they will keep the price the same is if we choose a weekday and it bothers me so much because they arent doing anything to be helpful. I'm against post phoning scritcly because I dony like how they are being.


    Second. I would be perfectly fine eloping just the two of us. It's what we wanted from the beginning but our family made such a big deal about being there. So essentially the wedding is for them.
    We are so torn whether to postpone to next may 29th or just roll the dice and hope limits get higher this may. I'm also intrigued to see if our venue will contact us now knowing the limit has shrunk so much and our wedding is not a possibility at that number.
    • Reply
  • Anah
    Beginner June 2021 Alberta
    Anah ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    Sigh. I’m in Alberta too. I was ok with cutting down with the 50 and under limit but I just heard the news about 15 and that’s a no go. We were getting married in Calgary. Our DJ just emailed me to tell me they are telling all their clients to postpone weddings March-May. I have no idea what to do, my fiancé is very much against postponing and would rather just cancel the wedding. I cannot do that, I always wanted the full wedding experience and I’m so sad that all the wonderful 2020 brides are experiencing this. I’m frustrated and wish I just knew what to do. I think we might have to ultimately postpone, and I’ll have to try to convince my fiancé. I am also wondering how long hair/nail salons will be closed and if tux rentals will also be affected into May, not to sound vain but i want to look my absolute best for our wedding day! Urgh. What are your thoughts?? What do you think you’ll do?
    • Reply
  • K
    Beginner May 2020 Alberta
    Kendell ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    So I'm not sure what province youre in. How big is your guest list? I'm getting married in canmore/banff and Alberta just dropped to 15 people and I'm struggling alot with the heck to do now.
    • Reply
  • Sammi0723
    Beginner September 2020 Alberta
    Sammi0723 ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message

    Oh I understand you completely! my sister in law got married in September this past year, and so everyone on his side is just like just be happy, as you said! they had their day, they don't care if i'm unhappy about it.

    I'm glad we have others that understand and we can vent to =) no one understands unless they are going through it I find. Married already or not, they all have the similar thought on how I should be grateful we are just healthy and getting married should be enough.

    And, I've thought about it too? thinking? am I just being selfish? should i be so upset? every time i come back to the same answer ... YES! why should I not get the wedding I want? You dream about it your whole life? and i'm sure no ones dream consists of a virus ruining it?

    • Reply
  • Cassie
    Curious September 2020 Ontario
    Cassie ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    Exactly! If I need to reschedule the bridal shower to closer to the wedding and change the bachelorette to something at home id be willing to do that. But cancelling them altogether? I don’t think I’d be okay with it. I hope things really start to turn around by end of April for all of us. I really miss the excitement-i would have been jumping up and down that it’s so close!
    • Reply
  • Anah
    Beginner June 2021 Alberta
    Anah ·
    • Dispute
    View quoted message
    I agree, my fiancé, sister and others don’t get it either and say “the end result is still the same, marriage” like yeah thanks. But my sister has already had a perfect wedding and all her celebrations and got to a “the bride” with no interruptions or limitations! so has everyone else that gives out this advice (aside from my fiancé haha) so it really upsets me when I hear this. If it were them in this situation I bet they’d be pretty upset too, I’m just so glad we have this community to relate with others. My wedding is May 30th, so far everything but the wedding has been canceled and I pray that things will sort out and all the brides will get the day we deserve and worked hard planning for. Take care!
    • Reply

Comment on this discussion

×

Related articles