Karen
Expert September 2018 Ontario

Last name

Karen, on 11/March/2018 at 23:11 Posted in Before the wedding
I have been thinking about whether I should keep my last name or have my FH last name after we get married. At first, I really didn't want to change my last name mainly because I don't want to deal with changing my IDs. But now I'm stuck & unsure. Are you guys changing your last name? Or not
If I hyphenated it, it'll be the longest last name ever so it's not an n option for me.
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie Online ·

    I'm still on the fence about it.

    1) Being from Qc, culturally only my grandparents and generations before them took their husband's last name. After that, women just keep their maiden name (by law). So for me to have a choice, it just feels weird and a bit wrong (got LOTS of backlash from my family).

    2) I find it ever so romantic to take my FH's last name, to be called Mrs. and it sorts of seals the deal. I mean, our friends already calls us by his last name.

  • Jessica
    Curious July 2020 New Brunswick
    Jessica ·
    I mgonna take my husband name...because for me its really important ....i think its an honnor for every woman to take is husband name...
  • Danielle
    Curious November 2018 Ontario
    Danielle ·

    I'm changing my name. Personally, I find it as a sign of respect for my husband. Not too mention that I want to proudly show off that i'm "MRS. ______"

  • Vanessa
    Expert August 2018 Manitoba
    Vanessa ·

    I always thought of keeping my last name as Vanessa Van Kooten always sounded amazing. How many people have the same first 3 letters in there 1st name and their last last name Van Van. And my initials VVK as I'm Dutch. I admit I will miss it and I thought about hyphenating or adding 2 names it but than it wouldn't fit on a form and I feel sorry for doing it to my daughter with her fathers last name which will not be the same as my married name as her father and I have not been together for going on 6 years. I am not looking forward to the long legal process of changing everything but Pepin is shorter and French and also means seed in english lol and hey VP for initials is pretty good. I'll always be Very Pretty or Vice President lol. Make sure your decision is important and meaningful to you and your spouse.

  • Karen
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Karen ·
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    That is unique way to have a reason to change your last name. I'm now on the side of changing it for the sake having 1 family name.
  • Emily
    Devoted November 2018 Ontario
    Emily ·
    I have a weird reason for wanting to change my name. I want to be published one day, but I have a very popular first-name last-name combo, with some who have published before. My google search of "Emily" with my FH last name only brings up one other person. So for uniqueness I'll probably change my name lol. You could also go by your husband's last name, but legally still keep your own Smiley smile Which is something I've thought of doing too.
  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
    Michelle ·

    I will be changing my name (not looking forward to the process). I hear that combing last names to make a new name is a new thing.

  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina
    Lynnie ·

    I changed my last name in the US and it was a BIG pain in the butt! You just don't realize how many different places you need to update your name!

    I'm still getting used to my new name a year and half later!! Smiley shame

  • Laura
    Frequent user October 2018 British Columbia
    Laura ·
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    I feel exactly the same way. Never thought I'd change my name but am now super excited to take my FH's last name.

  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·

    I plan on changing my last name but I work for the federal government and with all the Phoenix issues I haven't done it yet as I don't want to screw anything up.

  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    Yeah, it's definitely not for everyone, just a different idea!

  • Karen
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Karen ·
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    Woahh never heard of this. But I'm sure that's going to be alot of paper work. I already have a daughter with my FH and she has his last name so it'll be a load more work if i do that. But if it works for you that's unique to tell people.
  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·

    We've talked about combining our last names to make a new one! We'll probably have more paperwork to do that for IDs but I like the idea of having one name for our family but still keeping a part of both our names. I read an article of a couple doing that in BC, hopefully it's possible in Ontario!

  • Karen
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Karen ·
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    Traditionally my last name will be my middle name. I have a daughter and we used my last name as her middle name. I'm heart is sort off Going to changing my last name now as i want my family to be one. Just sucks that i gotta deal with changing all my IDs.
  • Breanne
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
    Breanne ·
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    SO much this. I absolutely love my last name - it just fits so well with my first and my family is really big on our Scottish heritage (FH even pulled off a proposal near my ancestral homeland near Loch Lomand Scotland).

    Despite this, I'm with you in making the change. I really like the traditional aspect of changing your last name to become a new family. And hyphenating definitely does NOT work for our names, doesn't sound great and would be super long.

    I love your idea of using it as a middle name if you have a surname that fits, wish mine did Smiley sad

  • Breanne
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
    Breanne ·
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    My best friend is a teacher who just got married last year and she felt the same way. She hyphenated her last name on legal documents but in the classroom has chosen to stick with just her last name because she worked so hard for recognization in the school board.

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