How to tell your friends they aren't invited to the Big Day....

Oh man thats hard. dont tell them what day it is and when they ask be like im so sorry im just doing a small intimate family wedding

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I am so sorry to hear that!

One good thing did come of it though - you know they weren't true friends if they don't come back. I get for them to be hurt about it but if they want nothing to do with you then do they really care about you?

I had to say no to kids at my wedding (okay, I wanted to say no), but that means that if my Godmother can't bring her 3 kids then the entire Dad's side of the family (except for like 8 people) are not coming.. It really showed us what kind of family they are and that we are good without them. Just stick to who you have closest and that will be attending the wedding and keep your head up.

I let two of my girlfriends know they wouldn't be in the bridal party today.... and now I have two less friends. I guess that's life but I didn't expect them to be that hurt that they cut me out of their life.

Just reach out to everyone personally and say hey we really would have loved to have you there on our day but due to budget, venue restrictions, personal choice we have decided to have a very limited number of guests only including immediate family and our absolutely closest friends. We love you just the same. Then after I would send everyone cards with a photo or something.

Well you can't manage other people's expectations, and yes some feelings may be hurt, (even if it's bc they just want to support you) but at the end of the day you have to do what's best for you and your FH. You can have them be your bride squad at the reception and your bachelorette if you are having one.

Just be straight up with them! Especially if you are planning on having a bigger reception afterwards that they will be invited to.

Like you said it is your day, and how you guys want it to happen is the most important. Someone will always be hurt regardless of which way you do it. As long as you and your FH are happy

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Our ceremony and supper is less than 20 people and we plan to have a big reception a few weeks after. I have a few girlfriends that expected to be in my bridal party and I have a feeling they'll be hurt and upset that they aren't invited to the ceremony.

I agree with Becky! You can let your friends and family know you’re having an intimate ceremony.

if you plan on having a larger reception at some point, you can perhaps invite those that didn’t go to the ceremony to the reception.

I would say to people asking that you are doing a very intimate wedding and its limited strictly to few immediate family members/friends. Are you having a reception when you get back?