Liarra
Frequent user February 2020 Ontario

Honeymoon before the wedding?

Liarra, on July 16, 2019 at 22:03 Posted in Honeymoon
Hey guys!

My fiancé and I are in a really weird job situation currently and as weird as this sounds we’re considering doing our honeymoon before the wedding. The timeline would just help us out HUGE with not having to worry about new jobs / asking for time off work / telling future employers during the interviews that we have a 2 week honeymoon booked and leaving a bad taste in their mouths / moving... amongst many others. We’ve discussed the fact of “will we regret not doing anything after the wedding” and we’ve sort of decided we could still do a 2-4 day mini-moon somewhere local post wedding. We’re both ok with that.

We haven’t told any family or friends yet and not sure if we will, as we don’t really want their opinions to influence our decision. No point in getting people fired up when it’s not set in stone yet.

Has anyone else done this, or had friends who have done this? Looking for suggestions or input. (We aren’t very traditional)
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  • Kelly
    Devoted May 2020 Ontario
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    Honestly do what works best for you! This might actually provide you with some much needed relaxation before you say I do! And could be a great time spent focusing on one another
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  • Bianca
    Featured August 2019 Ontario
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    It's no one's business but your own when you go on your honeymoon, so go on it when you can. I swear, there's so many traditions surrounding weddings that just don't make sense sometimes.

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  • Tamara
    Frequent user July 2019 Nova Scotia
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    Thank you! I'm sure everything will work out for you guys as well, regardless of what you choose and you will love every minute. I think Greece would be such an amazing experience and hope you both have a great time.

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  • Liarra
    Frequent user February 2020 Ontario
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    That sounds great. I totally agree. In a way this works out to be less stressful. Our wedding is in February 2020 but we’d be going to Greece this October long before wedding planning really gets stressful. This way we have one less thing to plan and think about / pay for closer to the wedding which will be nice. I love the low key minimoon idea after the wedding just to unwind and really soak in the moment with your husband too! Glad it’s worked out for you two!
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  • Tamara
    Frequent user July 2019 Nova Scotia
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    I don't think there is anything wrong with a pre-honeymoon at all : )

    Ours kind of worked out that way without us even planning it. We drove across Canada last September for the month and couldn't really come up with anything crazy exciting or big to do after the wedding. It feels like we just got back haha. So instead, we are just going to do a long weekend in a cottage down home near family and just enjoy the beach and being with each other after the wedding (And not having to work out details or plan something haha).

    It's really about what your comfortable with and what works with your life. Especially if you're not very traditional you can do absolutely anything you want as long as it makes you both happy. Friends and family will understand and probably applaud you for your decision. Regardless of what you choose.

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  • Liarra
    Frequent user February 2020 Ontario
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    Hey Cassandra!

    Nice to know I’m not alone in this decision! Yes exactly. We feel the same way. Instead of putting our jobs off another 2 years we’d rather just do the honeymoon first since that is an option for us now.

    Thanks for the help! Enjoy your honeymoon!
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  • Liarra
    Frequent user February 2020 Ontario
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    Thanks holly. Yeah we did consider doing it much later so that it felt more like a honeymoon. However unfortunately with us switching jobs and potentially moving we don’t really have the luxury of waiting and worrying about not getting the time off work. We want to go to Greece so we’d have to book everything in advance and it’s just a little too risky. But you’re absolutely right we do want to have the newlywed feeling so I think we are still going to do the mini moon post wedding so share in that feeling !
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  • Cassandra
    Newbie November 2021 Alberta
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    My fiancé and I are going away on our honeymoon this January 2020. We're still not getting married until late 2021. Just as you said having financial stability is important and employers giving time off at an interview is definitely not an easy thing to do or good impression. Enjoy that early honeymoon! 👰🥂
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    My husband and I aren't going on our till January 2020. We got married June 1st. We don't think it's a big issue and it worked into our life better. We got married in Ontario where all our friends and family are, we are from BC, so we spend an extra 2 weeks after the wedding there before coming back home. Do what works into your lives and your schedule. If going before make sense then do that, the only thing is it may not feel like a honeymoon since you aren't married it may just feel like a vacation. That's what my worry would be, and even tho that doesn't really matter I just wanted to actually be married at my honeymoon to have that "newlyweds feeling".
    But like I said, you need to do what you can that fits your life and if before works then go for it, or even if you're able to push it back a few months or so after the wedding maybe that would work too.
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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    Do whatever you think is best for you both! I hope you’re able to figure it out! It will be a blast either way.
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  • Kris
    Frequent user October 2019 Nevada
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    I would do what make it’s easy and less stressful for you. Most people I know have gone away for
    a few days somewhere close by but waited up
    to a year to take a honeymoon. Plus you can save up again too.
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  • Mystica
    Beginner August 2020 British Columbia
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    Honestly, do what fits best into your life situation. If it’s just easier now, it’ll save you that hassle. You have many more vacations to go on during your lifetime. You could toast that it’s also an intimate stag 😂😂😂
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  • Lynne
    Newbie September 2019 British Columbia
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    My fiance and I are not going on our honeymoon until over a month after the wedding. With family travelling so far to come celebrate with us, I want to be able to spend time with my close family while they are here and show them around. I have been to weddings where the bride and groom rush off the next day to go on their honeymoon and really have no time for getting settled after the wedding/doing a gift opening/spending time with family/friends who have travelled etc...
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    No problem, you'd have lots of time!! I would definitely do your honeymoon then! And don't let anyone tell you it's any less of a honeymoon because you're not married yet!!!

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  • Liarra
    Frequent user February 2020 Ontario
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    Yes sorry I forgot to mention. Wedding is in February and we are going to book it for October so lots of time before. It’s just the best time for us to go and the weather is still good where we’re going. I agree there is no way I could go in the two months prior to the wedding. I’d be far to stressed out! Thanks for your input !
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Honestly, if it work for you and your FH, definitely do it!

    However, one thing I didn't see mentioned is if you take it close to the wedding (i.e. a month or two before), it could be stressful if you are still planning/getting RSVPs/working out a seating plan/finalizing details - just my two cents lol

    I would definitely do the mini-moon afterwards if you do go down this route so you get some time to relax.

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