Help! Invites and STD's

Hi Jillian,

We resolved that issue by including an RSVP card that clearly states that we have reserved __(insert number of seats)__ seat in your name. It also helps when you send your invite that only the names of those you are inviting are addressed on the address portion of the envelope too. Our RSVP and wedding website was made on theknot.com and it had a feature to set the RSVP's to names that we had entered into the system so that guests cannot RSVP for a plus one unless we had pre-approved it.

Your wedding website should also include details and reiterate that due to venue capacity you're unable to accommodate plus ones or children. You could also rally help from your parents to explain to your extended families about that as well as your wedding party who can spread the news to friends.

People can be annoying sometimes. You (Jane Doe) and 75 other people think they can "be the exception". No thank you.

If you are sending mail back RSVP's, I would definitely say "We have reserved 1 spot for Jane Doe" Kindly accept __ Regretfully decline__" or something along those lines. Make it very obvious and specific to that person you are inviting.

If you do have more than one person, I would write out each person on that invitation and they can each accept or decline.

Some people need a neon sign pointing out the no plus one/kids rule lol. They try to ignore it in hopes that they can be the exception to the rule *eye-roll*

I feel like you can send out your invites and that would be fine, I wouldn't worry about any extras notice between now and then. Plus, it's on whoever assumed their plus one/kids were invited to make alternative arrangements (i.e. rebooking flights).

When are you planning on sending invites? For a destination wedding, you may want to consider sending them out earlier so guests can plan accordingly.

I would also have your mom/aunt whoever you trust with wedding details spread the word about no plus-ones/kids/etc. You can also put this information on a wedding website and let your guests know of its existence.

It's super frustrating when people assume kids/plus-ones/etc. are invited to a wedding and you hear through the grape vine that so-and-so is planning on bringing her kids/new bf. Having designated family liaisons can help mitigate awkward confrontations!

Best of luck to you!

Do you already have their address'? Maybe you could use that as an excuse to call them - even if you do have them, and mention that you are sorry in advance that you can't extend the invites for their S/O's?

That or have your parents call up your Aunt's and Uncle's to express your concern? I know I could get my Mom to call her siblings "just to catch up" and then slide in there that "Oh, and Tori is beyond stressed with the wedding - she's got it in her head that all of her cousins are just going to assume they have a plus one or ignore the fact that kids are not invited" and go from there?

Guests assuming they have their other half or family invited is just jumping to conclusions. Do follow up with the information to say that Its an Adult evening only and no plus 1's. As the recent website I went to see my cousins wedding information, there was the individuals name and events to accept/decline. I would have the RSVP information with the particular guests name which can't be modified in any manner on the actual invite.