Engagement party - is it a must-do?

We skipped this completely. It wasn't something on our list even in all truthfulness. If someone else would have offered, we wouldn't have refused, but no one did and we didn't want to plan it

We decided to skip the engagement party. Everyone was thrilled when we broke the news but we decided to spend the money for an engagement party on the actual wedding.

Depends on if you have a long engagement? I'm scrambling to even get the wedding done in 8 months, so no energy to plan additional things.

We're skipping it. It just seemed like an extra cost and another thing to plan. We celebrated individually with our friends and family when we saw them afterwards. We're awkward about being the center of attention so for us the wedding will be enough lol it's an individual preference but I really don't think it's a must-do. We didn't do engagement photos either.

We had a low key engagement party after Christmas. Most of our wedding party doesn't live in our city so it was a nice way for everyone to meet each other. There is a chance they dont all see each other again until the rehearsal dinner! We just kept it close family and our wedding party. It wasnt expensive but it was nice to all be together.

We did a super casual engagement party in our backyard last spring. Overall it didn't cost us very much at all. I will say that I wouldn't trade that day for anything.. Having the people I love most come together for my FH and I was so touching, it was maybe my favourite day of 2019 next to the day I got engaged!! I think it's easy to skip but I think that people are worried about making it too fancy and having it cost too much.. You can do it super casually and only invite the people closest to you, and it will be the most special day ever

We are skipping this part. We don’t want the extra cost of hosting something before the wedding

We didn’t have one. From proposal to wedding we had 9 months and felt like I wanted to jump right into wedding planning. A family offered to host one closer to the wedding but we just didn’t see the point with the wedding fast approaching. I think it’s nice but not a must.

Not a must. We didn’t have one

We combined our first housewarming party with our engagement party. It was perfect!

I don't know that it's a must, but I think it was great because his side of family/friends got to meet mine and it was really fun. We were lucky my mom and grandma hosted so it wasn't our budget

I skipped an engagement party. we wanted to save the money and put it towards the wedding

We didn't really have one and didn't really feel the need for it. FH's family had mine over for dinner almost a year after we got engaged and that was fine for us.

My fiancé proposed when we were hosting a family birthday in front of all our family... therefore I personally didn’t see a need for an engagement party since everyone close to us was already there and got to witness the proposal

I don't think it is essential. However, I would like to have one with our closest friends. We were engaged in November 2018 and our wedding is scheduled for August 2020. Time has flown by and we haven't really had a chance to celebrate our engagement with our family and friends. So while it is not essential for us, for example, it would be nice. Nothing extravagant either - just a simple dinner and an opportunity to make more happy memories with those we have grown up with and love very much before we walk down the aisle.

Not a must do but we did take our parents and siblings out for dinner

Not a must do. The costs involving this part of the party would be proportioned to the cost of the wedding.

Not a must do - however future MIL really wanted to throw us one so she did about 6 months after our engagement. It was a really nice laid back day!

Not a must do - but we had two a year after getting engaged/a year before the wedding. We had a long 2 year engagement so it was nice to celebrate halfway through to get people excited about the wedding.

We had one with DH's family a month after our nephew was born and one with my family around my parent's 30th anniversary. So we shared the spotlight a bit lol

We were ok on skipping this. It wasn’t a priority for us.

We never had an official one. We had a bbq with our closest friends when we got back from the trip that we got engaged on so that was kind of our engagement party.

I wanted to have a big one but it kept getting put aside and now I feel like it's too late (we've been engaged almost two years and the wedding is in October).

We're not going to bother. We're been a couple for 8 years.

We didn’t have one but I kinda wish we did. We avoided it because we weren’t sure if there’d be drama with the small guest list and didn’t want to make things awkward

Yes! must do for sure!! we had such a long engagement - 25 months - that it was so much fun to celebrate being engaged and enjoying the engagement part of it!!

We had one for my family cause some extended family hadn’t met my hubby yet. It wasn’t a necessity though.

Not a must. We had a few people over on a Friday night to tell them in person, but otherwise it was just a Friday night with friends!


I think it's just an added expense, and extra work, and an extra expense for your guests too.

NOPE! And we didn't have one either! We got engaged Dec. 30th 2017 and it took a week to announce it because my DH had to ask my Father for my hand in marriage (I asked him to marry me) - so then by the time that it was a thought it was already a month in and I didn't feel like it was still fresh.

Not a must do for us. We skipped it. We got engaged while we were on vacation, so it was a week long party for us. I think if we would have been home and if was in the summer, we may have had a little BBQ

We didn't have an official one. We celebrated with our parents the day after we got engaged since it was mother's day. So it was nice to combine the two celebrations and our moms said it was the best gift we could've given them lol. Then we hosted a small BBQ celebration with our closest friends later on

For me, it isn’t a must do. We didn’t think it was necessary - it would just be another party we’d have to plan and pay for.