Frequent user August 2017 British Columbia

Changing your last name

Andraya, on 4/March/2017 at 19:19 Posted in Wedding ceremony

So I have been struggling with he idea of if I am going to keep or change my last name. Finding and deciding on a wedding dress seemed eaiser then this.

I love my last name

My FH last name will make my name sound rhymy

I do not want to share an name with my MIL ;P

I have though of keeping both names but then my last name would be 17 letters long

What are your thoughts on the name change? No problem? undecided?



  • Emily
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
    Emily ·
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    It is important to me to keep my last name. I had a really strong bond with my grandfather and he’s been dead for 10 years so it’s one of my only ties to him and my dads side of the family. My last name is kind of long... 9 letters and his is 6.
  • Sasha
    Super October 2017 Ontario
    Sasha ·
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    I definitely say go with your gut feeling. Most people I know took their husbands last name and I sometimes felt like I need to do the same but I need to remember what feels right for me. I'm happy with my decision. His last name is only 5 letters so it's not too long. My last name is 7 so it is long but the two names flow well together so it's not too bad!

  • Emily
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
    Emily ·
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    I feel the exact same way! I’m the youngest daughter and my dad is an only child. Both my sisters took their husbands names. I’m strongly considering hyphenating. Have you been happy with your decision? How many letters is it if you don’t mind me asking.
  • Sonja
    VIP September 2017 Ontario
    Sonja ·

    I'll be hyphenating my last name with his because it connects me to my children and to my new family. Also, my degree and diplomas are in the name I currently carry.

  • Rekramer
    Expert November 2018 Ontario
    Rekramer ·

    Rhyming names make you sound like a superhero. But you do you. I always thought I would change my last name but my partner's mother did not change her last name, and I have all this work related-stuff that would make changing my name a is more and more common to have different names, so do what you're comfortable with.

  • Denise
    Frequent user May 2018 Ontario
    Denise ·

    As a personal preference, I'm keeping my last name because I love it! It's short and simple and I feel very much part of my identity and cultural ancestory, as my father's side come from the Black Sea region.

  • Stephanie
    Devoted June 2021 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
    I am changing my last name to his.
  • Bethany
    Super August 2017 Alberta
    Bethany ·
    I struggle with this as well! I love my last name it's tattooed on me in fairly big writing. Ive also never ever met another person with my last name that wasn't my family. My last name is Suitor. his last name is "Johnson".. super generic white boy name haha I hate losing my uniqueness and having such an American name. He really wants me to do it so I probably will because I chose to marry him. If he didn't care, I probably wouldn't change it. I think hyphenating looks messy and is just confusing for every other person around you so I'm not going to do that.
  • Laura
    Super September 2017 Alberta
    Laura ·

    David tells me that Kimura is a very common Japanese last name but it is always fun to find others with the same last name! Smiley smile Smiley heart

  • Geody
    Beginner July 2018 Alberta
    Geody ·
    I am hyphenating for mine , our two girls have hyphenated last names . I explained to my significant other that I don't know his Biological dad , I've never met him so that's the reason why and he is totally cool with it .
  • Melissa
    Devoted November 2017 Ontario
    Melissa ·
    This is a very personal decision. Growing up, I always thought I'd change my name when I got married. But then my sister kept her maiden name and it made me rethink things. She said it was because of all her professional licences. I think I'd be a bit bothered if I didn't have the same last name as my future kids. I too am a professional and have done some research. It won't be too difficult to change my name. I love my fiancé and his family, so for me to share a last name with them is an honour!
  • Louise
    Devoted September 2017 Quebec
    Louise ·
    One of my colleagues- her daughters last name is Kimura. Small world hahaha!
  • Vicky
    Frequent user June 2018 Quebec
    Vicky ·
    I am changing mine i cannot wait. I dont really like mine and I always knew I would change my name when ill marry
  • Jenn Snow
    Curious October 2018 Alberta
    Jenn Snow ·
    I am having the sameish problem. I am the only grandchild to have my grandpas last name. (Which is funny since my mom is the only girl in her family to have a daughter.) My problem is if I change my last name my grandpa's last name ends with me. It's kinda a lot of pressure .
  • Sasha
    Super October 2017 Ontario
    Sasha ·
    I would change my last name but as I am my father's only child and therefore only daughter, I want to keep my last name because I do love it and also to honour my dad. I will hyphenate it with my FH's name though as he has a short last name.
  • Laura
    Super September 2017 Alberta
    Laura ·

    I have been struggling with this as well. I have had the same last name for the past 45 years and been part of a really small grouping, my Dad and grandfather being the only ones to have the last name(changed when my great grandfather immigrated) there are now only 7 people with my last name and when I change it won't be part of that group anymore. BUT I think it is more important for me personally to be immediately identified as a group with my hubby. I might consider hyphenating but Lysager-Kimura is quite a mouthful.

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