I asked my bridesmaids to get long dresses within a range of different shades but otherwise told them they should get whatever style they love. They all bought dresses that met those criteria but one of the dresses is WAY more showy that the rest. Apart from being low-cut and sparkly (which on its own is a lot but something I can live with), it has a train. This feels like an aggressive choice to me. Is a train too much for a bridesmaid? Can I ask her to bustle her dress?