So this is a few part question..
First we need some background information. I am the maid of honor (and sister) for the bride. She is getting married in June in our neighboring province (about 8 hours away), so it's like a mini destination wedding. She gave everyone 1.5 years notice so they could plan accordingly.
We already had her bachelorette at the beginning of the month (February) due to work schedules. Me, her, her bridesmaid and two other girls did a destination Bach in Palm Springs. There were a few other girls invited but couldn't afford to go (totally understandable, and I didn't make them feel pressured to go either). We all split the cost of the Airbnb and her flights and because their was a seat sale it didn't really make much of a difference in our individual costs. But once all was said and done and with the price of food, drinks, Ubers, etc. it was round $1,000 each in the end.
My first questions is, is it okay to have a second bachelorette closer to the wedding? While in Palm Springs we didn't have a wild night out and it consisted more of girls nights in, etc. If I were to do a second Bach it would be a more traditional, girls night out with no financial commitment other than paying for your own drinks (Maybe $10 each to get a limo). I would invite basically anyone and everyone to this party (mom, mother in law, aunts, friends, etc.) and it would give the girls who couldn't afford to come to Palm Springs a chance to celebrate my sister's wedding. Is this too extra? I don't want the girls who came to Palm Springs to feel obligated to go and like her wedding is turning into a financial burden.
Second question, do I need to consult with the other bridesmaid about this or can I just plan it and tell her? While planning the Palm Springs trip she was very demanding and kept suggesting to do things I KNEW my sister wouldn't want to do, which made it difficult to work with her. Is it okay if I just go ahead and plan this second party without her input?
Lastly, should the Bachelorette party be the same day as Bridal Shower? My mom is planning to have my sister's bridal shower a month before the wedding. It is a brunch theme from 11am-2pm with drinks and food provided. Because some guests are out of town (1-3 hours away) I was thinking of having the Bachelorette that night to save them the trip of having to come down a second time. Is this two much for one day? Or is it better to kill two birds with one stone?
