Newbie September 2018 British Columbia

Are 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen too much?

Courtney, on 13/October/2017 at 00:55 Posted in Wedding ceremony
I saw a gf today and she cried because she wasn't in my wedding party. I feel obligated to ask her (not that I don't want her in my wedding) but I always thought 6 was too many ?
What's everyone else's thoughts?

15 Replies

  • Sydney
    Devoted August 2018 Ontario
    Sydney ·

    Just do what you want! We have 6 bridesmaids, and 7 groomsmen! I thought it was a lot at first, but hey, the more the merrier

  • Vanessa
    Expert August 2018 Manitoba
    Vanessa ·

    It's really up to the person. My theory along with others is DO YOU! My FH wanted 2 people and I looked at him and I said absolutely not. I would of had more than 4 if I could of. He had a hard time picking his 4 I even offered to go bigger and he said no. I have seen pictures of some that were huge. And I think most of us have watched 27 the end all her dresses were there for her. Now that's a big wedding party.

  • Chanelle
    Frequent user September 2019 British Columbia
    Chanelle ·

    Have as many as you want, it's you and your fiance's wedding and if you have 6 people each that are important enough to you to be in your wedding, do it. I also have 6 and 6 for my wedding (me=my sister, his 2 sisters, college friend, and two MOH's from high school, him=3 brothers, 2 friends from high school, 1 BM from high school).

    Honestly I thought the same thing in the beginning and only wanted 5 bridesmaids, but he really wanted 6 so I added 1 more to make our sides even.

    Plus, an even number of bridesmaids makes for nice symmetrical photos

    A question though - will your friend be upset since she wasn't in your "top" picks, or will she be okay if you ask her after?

  • Erin
    Featured September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·

    You do you! Have as many or as few as you like but don't let people guilt you into making them a part of your day. Unfortunately there will always be someone who is upset or offended at not being involved but we've got to stop at some point.

  • Ashley
    Frequent user September 2018 Quebec
    Ashley ·

    I've seen 6 before, we wanted to keep ours to 3 each because we want to keep our wedding simple and rustic. The larger the wedding party, the more expensive things can get. This person if not in your wedding party, can still be invited to the engagement party, bridal shower and even the bachelorette party if you want them to be. Your call, just make sure you and your fiance are satisfied with the decision as a team!

  • Daphne
    Super July 2017 British Columbia
    Daphne ·

    I've seen 6, and been one of 6 bridesmaids, before, so it's definitely not out of the ordinary. Do you feel like it's too many for you? And what happens if other friends have the same reaction; are you going to keep adding bridesmaids? You shouldn't have to feel guilted into who is in your wedding party and who isn't. Another option is to have her be your witness for the signing of the wedding ceremony. This way she's part of the wedding and you don't have to add another bridesmaid and groomsman.

  • Maegan
    Super July 2018 British Columbia
    Maegan ·
    I have 5 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen and we love it! If you want 6 id say gp for it!
  • Ashley
    Super June 2018 Alberta
    Ashley ·
    You can have as little or as much as you want! It’s your wedding. If you think you want her in there, ask her.
  • Sonja
    VIP September 2017 Ontario
    Sonja ·

    Aww! That was really nice that you invited her to be a bridesmaid. She must think a lot of you. Six bridesmaids and six groomsmen is quite a large bridal party but I think it will look beautiful in pictures. It might be a bit tricky to get them all together for dresses and suit fittings.

  • Michelle
    Curious October 2018 Ontario
    Michelle ·
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    I love this!

  • Michelle
    Curious October 2018 Ontario
    Michelle ·

    I think it's really up to you!

    I wanted to no more 4 in both wedding party's... although my personal relationships with the girls brought us to have 5 on each side.

    I think it really comes down to who you believe will be able to support you best and who you are closest with. This is going to be your 'Team' - supporting you and helping you with the planning.

  • Ap2017
    Super September 2017 Ontario
    Ap2017 ·

    It's all up to you. My sister had 8 girls standing with her in her wedding. I went smaller (3) because it was easier for me to coordinate a smaller group of people, but if you want to go big - then go big!

  • Lisa
    VIP May 2018 Ontario
    Lisa ·
    It's totally up to you. My fiance and I have 1 best man and maid of honour. That's it. All my cousin's who got married this year , regretted having large bridal parties and wish they would have done what we did. Everyone you choose will say yes right away but then when it's time to schedule shopping , or wedding planning , none of them are around. Then you also have to deal with some friends becoming jealous. There are tonnes of discussion boards on here about those very issues. Not to mention there is a financial component as well. With the gifts you buy etc. So I would really thinking about making it any bigger. But again it's your wedding and totally up to you.
  • Kathy
    Devoted June 2018 Ontario
    Kathy ·

    I think you should have as many or as few bridesmaids/groomsmen and you like! There is no right or wrong here, you should have the people that mean the most to you standing with you on your big day. I am having 6 bridesmaids for that reason, I couldn't picture getting married without all of them being involved. my FH has 4 groomsmen, and that is plenty for him.

  • Ashley
    Expert March 2018 Ontario
    Ashley ·

    I have 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen and we love it! We have come together as a team and even have some friendly rivalry between Team Bride and Team Groom. I say go for it! At the end of the day it is your day and your wedding do what you want!

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