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Kaisha
Super March 2019 Nova Scotia

Anyone skipping on traditions?

Kaisha, on April 29, 2018 at 22:53 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 34
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We are skipping a lot of traditions, the more I talk to people I feel its more common.

What we are skipping,

1. Traditional cake - we will do cupcakes or DIY dessert table
2. Bouquet/garter toss
3. We will have online RSVPs and no programs
4. traditional wedding party, we will have a male on my side and females on my FHs side.
5. Mother son and father daughter dance
6. favours, my mom is still trying to convince us otherwise though.
7. no bridal shower or engagement party
8. No honey moon, we will probably take a trip before the wedding.
9. Receiving line
I have not decided if I will wear a veil or if my dress will be white. I am also sure I am missing something.

I would love to hear everyone's thoughts and what you will be doing or skipping.


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Latest activity by Jen889, on May 10, 2018 at 14:36
  • Jen889
    Devoted May 2018 Quebec
    Jen889 ·
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    Skipping garter/bouquet toss. Our wedding is so small and everyone there is married or long term relationship. My best friend is bothering the you-know-what out of me for the bouquet toss. Saying its bad luck not have it etc. I'm tired of explaining why I'm not doing it. I just don't see the point. I want to keep my bouquet, her argument is getting a toss bouquet. I don't feel like I want to spend $22 on a special toss bouquet when I don't want to do it in the first place.

    We're skipping the receiving line, grand exit, and the something old, something blue etc.
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  • Marcia
    Super August 2018 Manitoba
    Marcia ·
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    We are skipping some traditions as well

    1. Garter toss 2. engagement party 3. delayed honeymoon 4. receiving line (I feel like theres more but I can't think of them right now)

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  • J
    Devoted June 2019 Ontario
    JuneBride ·
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    We aren't doing the bouquet and garter toss. We arent having a send off (mainly because that's not a tradition on my side). We aren't having a program. We are having a receiving line but it will only be myself with FH and our parents. The bridal party doesn't need to be there. Not sure what you mean by traditional wedding party. No clinking on glass (venues don't want that anymore). Only game we are having is to win the center pieces.
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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
    Kaisha ·
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    Yes some of the reasons we skipped things was cost and some we felt just weren't needed.

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  • Megis
    Devoted August 2018 Ontario
    Megis ·
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    Yeah skipping on a bunch of "traditions" part if it is costs. Other part is I find s bunch of things unnecessary.
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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
    Kaisha ·
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    I agree, times change and a lot of these things aren't expected anymore.

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  • Maegan
    Super July 2018 British Columbia
    Maegan ·
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    We are akipping almost all of those as well! The only one we arent is the wedding party... Only because any guys i would invite are already in my FHs party and any girls he would invite are in mine...

    And we are doing a honeymoon but itll be delayed by a couple months as we plan to go backpacking for 8 weeks.

    The other thing we will not do traditionally is we will be taking photos and signing the papers before the ceremony for logistic reasons.

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  • Marleau
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
    Marleau ·
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    We’re skipping quite a few of those things as well. There just not necessary anymore.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    We're skipping:

    Receiving Line

    Garter/bouquet toss

    Cake

    Invites (we emailed them!)

    potentially mom/son, dad/daughter dances

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    We wont have a grand exit or receiving line.

    My FH won't dance with his mom, since she's out of the picture, but he'll dance with his FMIL Smiley smile I have both my dad and my FFIL to dance with lol.

    We are also having a less-than-traditional wedding party, he'll have a best woman.

    We are still torn if we are doing bouquet/garter tosses. I'll still have a veil but it's birdcage not the usual veil.

    That's about it for now, doing a lot of traditions still lol

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina
    Lynnie ·
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    We definitely skipped some things! No garter or bouquet toss, no “send off”, and I skipped “something old, new, borrowed, and blue”!
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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
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    I love the idea of watching each other down the aisle. We are skipping the dances because my FH doesn't have a great relationship with his mom. I will definitely dance with my dad at some point but he will probably be relieved that its not a big thing.

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  • Marie-Claire
    Devoted August 2018 Quebec
    Marie-Claire ·
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    We're skipping quite a lot of traditions:

    1. No wedding cake, just dessert from our venue's menu (could be cake or something else)

    2. No bouquet or garter toss (there won't be a bouquet and a garter at all, actually)

    3. No flowers in general

    4. No save the dates, online RSVPs, no programs

    5. No special dance except for the first dance (if we're having dance at all)

    6. No favours, but I haven't really seen them in many weddings around here

    7. No bridal shower or engagement party

    8. No veil or tiara

    9. No glass clinking for kisses, but we'll do something else (I've seen anecdotes, songs, rolling a huge dice, etc. in other weddings)


    We aren't sure if we're doing a first look. My fiancé first seemed dead set on not seeing me before, but he's warming up to the idea, especially since he realized how long the pictures would take otherwise.

    I'm not sure about the receiving line, but so far I hadn't considered doing one.

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  • Jennifer
    Super July 2019 Ontario
    Jennifer ·
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    1. we are having a small cake to cut/for photos. our venue meal comes with dessert.

    2. no bouquet/garter toss. but am going to honour a couple that are like parents to me (thinking I may also play their wedding song with it)

    3. Favours i'm hit and miss on. am thinking maybe just something small (like little bags of Hershey kisses with a thank you sticker/tag)

    4. I wasn't going to do a receiving line. and my dj/coordinator made a really good point for our size of wedding (200 guests invited). that it would be really difficult to stop and talk at every table and would be more time consuming than a receiving line as people come to the reception. he says its quicker to say thank you/love you/hug etc.


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  • Megis
    Devoted August 2018 Ontario
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    1. Bridal shower- we have all our household stuff

    2. Engagement party - I find these pointless. Everyone knows you're engaged already.

    3. Bachelorette party- I dislike these and find them vulgar

    4. Wedding dance - I can't dance and our venue is more food oriented

    5.garter toss- skip

    6. Limo - just find it unnecessary

    7. Speeches - limiting this one. They can end up being boring

    I think that's all our skips. Concentrating on food, fashoon, family and wedding games.
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  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
    Helen ·
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    A little of both:

    No engagement party or shower (I thinkSmiley smile

    No garter or bouquet toss

    Three little glorious letters : P-I-E!

    No head table

    Boy/Girl on each side of us, no ringbearers or flower girls or minors of any variety

    Paper RSVP for only those you know need them

    No rehearsal dinner - doing a wine/cheese welcome (Winery 5 hrs out of town)

    Yes to:

    Not seeing each other before the wedding

    A dramatic cathedral veil and classical music for the wedding march

    Programs only if it is so hot we need them as fans



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  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
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    Someone is getting a clock for your wedding gift...lol yours truly a fellow Dutchie Smiley smile

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  • Lydia
    Devoted June 2019 British Columbia
    Lydia ·
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    1. We have a morning wedding
    2. Not sure yet about the cake, trying to make it ourselves or its gonna be a smaller one and cupcakes with it (I sorta wanna skip it all together and I think we probably have a dessert table anyways but he reallyyyy want cake so this is still all a bit up in the air)
    3. No garter or bouquet toss
    4. No dancing, we're having boardgames instead and plenty of fun things to do at our venue
    5. RSVP will be online
    6. No traditional games like shoe game / clinking glasses for kisses etc. This is also partly because we're Dutch, have a lot of Dutch guests and this isn't a thing over there so it will just be a lot of confusion, same reason to skip 7
    7. No receiving line
    8. No headtable or seating plan
    9. No programs
    10. No engagement party / bachelor and bachelorette / bridal shower etc.
    11. No real flowers (doing paper / book ones instead)
    12. Probably no rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
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  • Laura
    Frequent user October 2018 British Columbia
    Laura ·
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    I say do whatever makes sense for you and your FH and leave the rest, regardless of tradition.

    We're skipping:

    1. Cake altogether (doing a plated dessert instead)
    2. Garter and bouquet toss
    3. We're also doing online RSVPs
    4. Delayed honeymoon/just doing a vacation next year.
    5. No engagement party.
    6. Pretty sure we're skipping the receiving line too.
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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
    Jen ·
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    We are not doing a bouquet or garter toss either. Instead we are giving a bouquet to the longest married couple in attendance. We chose to not do programs because they're a waste of paper, no bridal shower or engagement party (not by choice though.. nobody planned anything), no bachelor/bachelorette parties, and definitely no receiving line. Our wedding is small enough that we will have time to go around and talk to everybody individually so a receiving line is not needed.

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  • Emily
    Devoted November 2018 Ontario
    Emily ·
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    We are skipping:
    - engagment party
    - Bridal party altogether
    - we did online RSVPS too (or phone calls for the older generation)
    - garter toss (but keeping bouquet)
    - cake (we're doing pies)
    And
    - We are walking eachother down the aisle Smiley smile

    I wouldn't want to skip out on the father/daughter, mother/son dance. We are doing ours together to save time, but unless you have a terrible relationship with your parents, it's just a nice thing to do that doesn't cost anything Smiley smile That's just me though.
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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
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    I think it's great! Feeling you NEED to stick to some traditions is overrated, you need to do what works best for you! And honestly some of the items you're skipping is going to save you a huuuuge amount of money!

    We are not doing an engagement party, traditional cake (will have a small 1-2 tier up top of other desserts for the guests) and we will have a honey moon but not until much later.

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  • Gina
    Super April 2019 Alberta
    Gina ·
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    We are skipping the following
    -no bridal shower or engagement party
    -no garter or bouquet toss
    -no cake (we are doing a dessert table instead)
    -no slideshow
    -no veil or tiara

    But then we are sticking with some traditions
    -paper invites and paper rsvps
    - father daughter/mother son dance
    -favours (we are doing 3)
    -family walking down the isle (lots)
    -receiving line
    -we won’t see eachother until the ceremony at 3:00
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  • Lauren
    Newbie October 2019 Ontario
    Lauren ·
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    We’re opting for:
    - morning ceremony
    - no dj
    - no decorations
    - no wedding colours
    - no wedding party
    - no “traditional” games or garters
    - no sit down rehearsal dinner
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  • Jocelyn
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
    Jocelyn ·
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    Not walking down aisle w/ parents
    no programs
    no receiving line
    no eng. party
    no asking for parents blessing on my side
    no veil, no tiara
    no cake- dessert table instead
    no corsages/boutinneres

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    That's pretty fair!

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  • Rosalyn
    Devoted August 2018 Alberta
    Rosalyn ·
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    We are skipping a lot of ‘traditional’ stuff I think...

    - no garter/bouquet toss
    - shoe games:any games
    - honeymoon (at least for a couple years)
    - receiving line
    - no engagement or bridal party
    - no paper rsvp
    - no programs
    - no clinking of glasses
    - no photo collage of us

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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
    Kaisha ·
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    We will definitely be skipping the glass clinking as well but we may do something else instead.

    I had to look up the Guyanese queh queh but it looks amazing!

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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
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    My mom is really pushing for the favours, she keeps saying she will handle them so if she takes care of everything we will probably get them.

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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
    Leah ·
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    We’re having a morning/brunch ceremony/reception. I’d like to wear a cocktail length dress and I likely won’t have the traditional dress shopping experience bc I want to spend $500 max.

    Also not doing the following:

    1. Cake
    2. Wedding party
    3. First dance
    4. Garter/bouquet toss
    5. Honeymoon
    6. Paper invitations
    7. Receiving line
    8. Glass clinking for kisses

    We are however having a Guyanese queh queh the night before.

    We haven’t decided on entertainment but would like to keep it playful/whimsical/classy.

    I’m a big sap but enjoy bucking conventions so it’s been fun customizing our vision for the day.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
    Jennifer ·
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    We’re doing a small cake and cupcakes.
    We also have online rsvps and no programs We’re not doing traditional favours just making wine and setting a couple bottles on every table and setting out tubs of drinks on us after the ceremony. So that’s kind of our favour?
    We had an engagement party but I won’t have a shower.
    We’re not doing a receiving line either.

    We’re keeping the bouquet and garter toss, mother/son father/daughter dances, traditional wedding party and honeymoon.

    I plan to wear a veil and my dress is white/ivory. Smiley smile
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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Totally on board with skipping some of the more traditional aspects of a wedding!

    We're skipping:

    - bouquet toss

    - garter toss

    - cake

    - receiving line

    I'd keep the wedding favours if I were you tho! I personally think it's a nice way of thanking your guests for taking the time to celebrate your day with you Smiley smile

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